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I snap my fingers and I appear next to you!

Magic, stars, energy, LOVE…yes, love is the engine of life, love is in the air, love moves everything, love is always the best option and the only answer.  Make yourself comfortable and take a  spectator´s seat…prepare yourself, be ready, done!..let the magic begin!

I snap my fingers and I appear next to you!

I belong to the generation that grew and danced with the Spanish pop of the eighties, among others. .. Ok, I carry on telling you the story. This morning I suddenly found myself humming the  refrain  of a song from the Eighties “ when you believe you can see me going through the wall…lalalala!”  And I am already writing a new post!.. I ask myself : “ what picture could I use to transmit the feelings of this refrain?  I stop, think…but I do not get any inspiration..How peculiar!  I move my look on one side and I start to laugh alone. My eyes are staring at one of my exercise mats. Guess what? I bought it online a few months ago. I desperatly wanted to get an exercise mat with a background full of stars and I found it.. ha ha ha so funny! Who could have possibly told me that, apart from connecting my body daily, I would have used that same mat as an inspiration to write!

Mobile phone in my hand and I freeze that image.  I love it! Thank you universe, you always help and inspire me!

I believe and trust

Back to Alex and Christina´s song, I am pretty sure some of you will remember it, especially those belonging to my generation..at that time I was about 16…Youth, dreams, magic, first loves.. Can you believe now I am living my love as if I were still 16? Yes, luckily this is who I am, with the same desires but with the double of the experience…a perfect equation! I will tell you my secret; I BELIEVE AND TRUST in love to the marrow. I put entusiasm and care in everything I think, say and do, from dawn to dusk. I already know what you are thinking “ a tour de force”.  I am not denying it is, but the choice is between frying my brain with negativity, self-sabotaging messages or taking the time to tame my mind, and believe me, I go with the second option without blinking.

Let us focus on what we know as romantic love, the love of a couple, love that can disappear in a flash  if we are not able to make it human. Love that needs  great dosis of daily care, sweetness, understanding and respect to grow, to evolve, to last in time…Even though this sentence is very used,  it is so true, totally true! : it all starts within yourself.

I flatter myself as I am a great lover of love. I have always believed in it, but not blindly, on the contrary, with my eyes wide open.  Since I opened my eyes wide  and I “awoke”, I could see with clarity the other person´s truth, which is my truth as well. The more I hugged myself the more and better I could hug; the more I  loved myself, the more I could love and it was quality´s love. 

A marvellos moment which brought me a before and an after

I remember very well the moment I decided to work on it and started to cultivate myself actively in all those qualities I wanted to see in my partner .  What a honest mirror to look myself in. A marvellous moment that brought me a before and an after!

That eliminated  completely all those demands I had with myself and as a consequence those same demands I was projecting  in my loved one. From a great abundance I share  a honest love, without any expectation, simply for the pleasure of giving, without calculating how much I give and how much I receive back accordingly.

I evolved from SELF LOVE to  HEALTHY LOVE. LOVE with capital letters, thruthful and profound, keeping alive the condition that “ if I am like this, imperfectly perfect, showing my soul and heart totally naked, would it be possible I could attract and finally hug the real love?

Love does exist!

And it did arrive…and we recognized one another…easily, like love is when it is real LOVE, magical.  Secretly I can tell you I had a lot of “signs from the universe”, those types that are all around us constantly, but our free will decides either to listen to them or to drown them.

My intuition was leaving  “bread crumbs “ along the way, as Tom Thumb did..Until one night in April we met…our souls recognised each other instantly, my whole body was vibrating from head to toes. In the snap of a finger  it appeared next to me!

Even though there was not any certainty we would have seen each other again, I was so grateful to life because it gave me the opportunity to prove I was totally right LOVE DOES EXIST!…It was then that life said YES…and we are happy ever since.  Do you know the secret ? …Every day we build together our palace with dreams and stars, we fly high together, yet we keep our own individual essence and we create every single day our bespoke garden of Eden.  This story is based on real colourful facts and it carries on with new chapters day after day.

I hope you have enjoyed this  and I encourage you to build your own story with your eyes wide open.  LOTS OF KISSES!  ?

 

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Dream endlessly…because dreams are the meaning of life

Get your favourite pillow and open yourself to the immensity of “everything is possible”…close your eyes and be transported into the magic world of your  dreams…

I follow my ritual every day and today is no exception; I get up, I immerse myself and observe with joy my interior conscientious space, I have breakfast and make the bed.  While I am pulling one of the bed sheet, for a moment, I am taken back to my tender ages, when my mother used to tell me “ the order in your bedroom is the order in your head…” Do you feel the same as me,that  everything sets off well at the start of the day when you have made your bed? While I am giving the finishing touch to the quilt and put in order all the cushions you can see in the picture, my little inner voice whispers “ this bed saveguards many dreams that came true…so many dreams turned into reality while I was sleeping here!

Dream endlessly…because dreams are the meaning of life

I run to get my mobile because I want to capture a picture of my bed… the plot of my new post is in production!

Life, dreams…I wander..my enthusiastic mind reaches out to the Baroque period, Calderon De la Barca and his theatrical “ life is a dream”, which coincides 1000×1000 with the focus of what these lines want to trasmit; free will vs destiny, plenitude  and freedom of the human being vs social dictations.

I leave the following thoughts in this page and I invite you to analise them

Would you say dreams are repressed passions crying out to see the light and become reality?Do you think dreams give us clear messages to re-set our compass, to re-define the direction of our life´s journey?Are we the creators of our destiny?From my life experience and based on my observation I answer with a definitive YES..this is how I feel and live it..

Has it ever happened to you that you had a dream so real, so beautiful, while dozing, half asleep and half awake and you told yourself “ make it last a bit longer…”?

Of course life has two faces. This is why, with lot of love, we should give some space to those dreams we define as less pleasant, and certainly they are so, or at least this is how we perceive them.

Those dreams, apparently without any logical sense, where people and situations are mixed upside down, are infallible indicators that our subconscious want to tell us somenthing…a  way out to a better reality.

Those dreams we define as “bad dreams  or nightmares” ( just consider how we referr and judge them) bring to the surface fears and pains covered deep down in our BEING.  My dear travelling fellows take special care to those dreams that repeat themselves again and again.. I can assure you that if you have the perseverance and the willingness to remember them and open yourselves to THE CONSCIENCE THAT KNOWS EVERYTHING, you will discover, little by little, the meaning of their message; slowly , slowly discovering the origin of your  wounds…the same ones that refrain all of us from reaching our highest desires.

We are here to write our best “ theatrical play”, not only to leave it written in a booklet or lost in a drawer…Let us accept with happiness and courage the challenge of this terrestrial physical experience, given to us as a present, like the scriptwriter of our existence!

Open your eyes to the dreams!

Open the eyes to dreams.. live, laugh, cry, get excited, feel fear, doubt…look for the steps that will lead to your reality, the one you want to experience.. at the end what is a dream and what is a reality? Who decides it ?

In my humble opinion and if this can bring you some benefits, LIFE IS A DREAM..as Calderon used to say. The day I give up dreaming will be the day I will have completed my life´s cycle, this is how I feel it..In the meantime the curtains of the theatre will open up every morning. This is how I see life, a magical awakening, full of dreams as real as I allow them to be.

This confinment I am living and have lived, has been a gift which helped me to re-structure my life, my dreams and my new direction. I can confirm that  our FEARS are the only distance between dreams and reality.. I embrace them and push myself, once more, to reach my best version.

I decide to make of BALANCE-IN® my life, I bet on it, I  keep on DREAMING AND CREATING.. I will  go on…Are you coming with me?

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Love yourself for real…to love yourself more

Come on in…!  This space is always open for you. Put yourself at ease and take a seat. The play is starting. I tell you …

Maybe you are asking yourself what is the connection between the picture with the gummies and the title “ love yourself for real ..to love yourself more” ? And you are very right to ask yourself this question. I will open the drop down list so you will see the connection.

The other day, in one of those “invaluable”  visits to the “supermarket”, where everyone was wearing a mask, I passed in front of a very tempting bag of gummies and my mouth started  watering inevitably. My God, how delicious! Straight into the basket! 

I arrive back home, put the shopping in its place, blah , blah, blah…basically doing what every person does when returning from shopping. But with the “candies” I have the childish habit to open the bag and put all of them in a crystal bowl, as you can see in the picture…I love it!

I  can feel I am flying back in time, to those amazing years of my childhood when we used to celebrate the birthdays at home.  That smell of pure sugar..laughs…without any worries, the freedom.  How nice to recall those moments and revive those emotions!

I abstracted myself for some time ( I am not sure if for 10 or 15 minutes) and went to fly freely”

When I came back from that fantstic journey I thought “I simply adore it”!…I put myself in motion for my next post.. down to write!

The moment of thruth is now, so you will be able to understand the connection between the picture and the title I have chosen.

Mother´s Day

The following day, last Sunday,was the first Sunday of the month…celebration of Mother´s day, name-day of every mother and for me of every woman too.  My two sons wished me a wonderful Mother´s day and I felt so touched; the eldest, 24 years old, lives independently  “ Happy Mother`s day mum. I love you”. The joungest, 19 years old, between Saturday night and Sunday 00.00  writes to me from his father´s home” Happy Mother´s day mum, you are the best mum I could ever had. I love you very much”

How many things we have learnt together,  and personally …even more! The journey till here has been long, but worth…so much!  It would be much better  if we were able to  listen to  that voice, which is always right; that inner voice which accompanies us at every step! The comfort ,of being able to carry on despite all the bumps on the way, is immense. There have been, there are and there will always be bumps…Step after step, through dark forests, which are our great teachers, we have learnt to climb higher.  And yes we do learn, of course we do.  I hold on, in line with the interior wisdom…I have kept my confidence. NOW life is telling me again” here you are, your undeniable evidences, decisions you made and you did it well, firm in front of strong winds and high waves…here you are, more presents for you…you deserve them. We enrich each other and we learn to respect one another too.  What a satisfaction! I felt and I feel  full of happiness.

To love; is so good to love oneself with responsibility and give ourselves the right place when we know we have to do it. I am decided and I am taking action in first person, jumping over that tight knot of “what will they think”, “ How can I behave like that” “ I must sacrifice myself”…and all those social dictations and programmings trespassed  down from generations to generations. Unfortunately we have absorbed them as absolute thruths  without even thinking “ Is this right for me?.. Should I express my opinion about it?..how egoist are the kids…!  My dears, once again our index finger is pointing at ourselves with such a clarity.  Are you firm? Do you talk about your needs with those you love? Do you love yourself? And the one million dollars…Do you listen to your inner little voice or do you shut it up and drown its messages?

“ Love yourself for real…to love yourself more”

The only possible way is to engrave with profound respect the following belief in our heart “ you will love your neighbour as yourself”. Only if based on this, you can build a honest relationship with unconditional, respectful and delicate love.   Start with yourself, if you love yourself for real then you will love more and you will be loved back even more!  Make these reflections ! Can you remember what the airstewardess says when they give you the basic security procedures? In case of cabin depressurization the oxigen masks, contained in the compartment above, will drop automatically in front of you. First of all wear your mask, breath in and then you can help other to put their mask on.  Be corageous and honest with yourself…it is very easy to fall into victimism or  live under the influence of secondary benefits.

From our victimism we feed the “ he/she did this to me, he/she told me this, I cannot do anything about it”..Stop and think!: Do you want to be trapped like an hamster in the wheel or do you want to get out of it with the power of “just jump”?

As a secondary benefit we can sense that suspicios attitude to control other people; by doing so we prefer to persist in our “ suffering and complaining mode” which is our well known comfort zone;  we should not depend on anyone apart from ourselves.

 Let us take the bull by the horns  and be responsible for our own life, let us build our life starting from our own “ self” and let us give others the opportunity to learn and choose how they want to build their own life

Unconditional love…towards ourselves first…LOVE YOURSELF FOR REAL …TO LOVE MORE.

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I dare to be

This triggered  a sequence of words like: “different, freedom, breaking the mould, get out from the status quo, dare”.  Another sentence followed automatically “I dare to be “. Soon after, another mental click takes place and I ask myself “ would it be possible to see sheep more weird than a black one? What if there could be sheep of my favourite color, orange? Who knows if there is any image showing orange sheep?…of course there must be some…

Curious like a child I started to look in Google and typed in ” pictures of orange sheep free from any copyright”.  I scrolled page after page, until, there they were…beautiful..three of them, with a fantastic orange fleece! Immediately I thought..these are definetly more rare than a black sheep ( they will coincide with my singularity…have a look at the picture accompanying this post).

Without having to look for it, these were the preliminars that inspired me to choose the title of my third post, giving me the pleasure to share it with you now.

I dare to be

“I dare to be” Now I feel I have achieved the inner strenght to give myself the permission to be. Everything goes through a process that re-writes all those life´s events, that in some circumstances, hurted us and left signs deep down in our being. Life is very wise and it presents those same events, again and again during our terrestrial journey, until we are exhausted by the sufferings and finally point the finger at ourselves. We become aware of the lesson and this allows us to re-write the event, like in a tabula rasa and make of it our new healthy vision.  From here, we move on with the total certainty that we will find more obstacles to overcome, new difficulties to learn from, new bridges to cross; this is the marvellous price we have to paid to be alive, embracing changes and uncertanties!

I am here with you

I am here with you, offering you my hand, enriched with my own personal experience. We can nurture each other…as I did when it was my time..I accepted the evidences and in that moment I asked myself “ how is it possible that some events repeat themselves over and over in my life”?  It seems that some people are there to remind me of my pain, my fear, my lack of selfesteem..blessed people, blessed circumstances!.. they were showing me IN CAPITAL LETTER, underlined in black ink to LOOK INSIDE YOURSELF. They were and are very valuable teachers who vibrate in our same frequency. Teachers who obblige us to get out of our comfortable zone (even though the comfort is painful, yet is very familiar..) unless we choose to perpetuate the pain and so re-experience it over and over again. The choice is always ours.

From my personal experience, if this can be of any help to you, I can state that every human being has the right and almost the obligation to dare to be…what each one wants to be, breaking the pattern and like  “orange sheep” jump over the norms imposing us how things need to be, like this or that…The only condition for this journey is to go with a very light equipment  and FORGIVE.  Proceeding from an inner space that have been carefully analised and healed. The paradise is here, if we want it to be here. If life gives you a spanner, a hammer and a screwdriver you have two options: a)What the hell do I do with this? b) How lucky, I have three tools!”

Create!

Create and carry on being an optimist, always embracing the feeling of gratidude. 

The gratitude offers us the opportunity to evolve, to move on, to re-write the most difficult chapters of our life and most important of all, to forgive ourselves. The  act of self-forgiveness is tough but can be done. Of course it can be done! With a strong  conviction, stepping forward, with gratefulness, with an open heart and full of curiosity.

Dare to be yourself, dare to break the mould.. What do you want to do? What is your passion? Do you already know the purpose of your life?..It does not matter if you are 18 or 90 years old, there is always an opportunity to feel better in your-self! Would you like to focus on your daily life as if it was an enjoyable game full of colors and enthusiasm or do you prefer to focus on grey and boring daily obbligations?

Come on in, the door is wide open for you…BALANCE-IN® ..your inner voice is desperatly calling you to get your attention.  Dare to be different. Plan and create your own  Journey! Please, believe you deserve all the best life has to offer.  The only distance between YOU AND YOUR BEST VERSION is in your mental programmings.  Reset yourself, start afresh, NOW it is the right moment.  You are free, open your wings and fly high..you have so much to tell to the world. This is your time, the time to nurture yourself and others thanks to your unique virtues, those virtues that identify only you and nobody else. Go on…I go WITH YOU! Are you ready to discover it?

Dare to be! ?

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20 year is nothing

The new post of my blog starts paraphrasing Gardel´s beautiful tango “ Volver”. This is a very intimate space and I am thrilled to share this with you,it is based on facts so real like life itself.

Early this morning, while I was opening the drawer of one of my piece of furniture in the sitting room, a picture caught my attention. A picture I had not seen for ages ( the one on the right). Mamma mia…it has been soo long! By pure chance..another picture of the past suddenly pops up in my mind ( the picture on the left). I look for it and decide to put it next to the other like a collage. I keep staring at the older picture; a time of my life I did not mind revealing my age; in a snap of a finger I am taken to my mental archive…unbelivable! In a blink my long term memory transports me to some real moments in that space, very close to my thirties. I was in full decade´s change; it usually happens to me every decade ( or so I have been noticing)I was in the full swing, ready to make life changing decisions both at personal and professional level.

Balance-In, the method

I kept flying back to that stage of my life for a long while. It is simply unbelievable how our mental programmings work. It was enough just to press a simple visual button ( the picture) to revive so cleraly and vividly scenes from the past, people, perfumes, like if I was living in a film and the old me was the main actor. As you can inmagine I bumped into some very pleasant memories and some not pleasant at all…This was more than enough to put in action my daily method “focus on what you do not like, re-write it and focus again on how you would have liked it to be, visualise it with positive emotions as part of the mental reset (base of the method Balance-in).

It was like magic. By re-writing it, focusing on how I would have liked it to be and associating positive emotions to it, I managed to change “ the feelings of that memory” from uncomfortable to pleasant.

“20 years is nothing””

Looking now at the more recent picture ( the one on the left) I carry on seeing that adventurer, that joung enthusiast woman and those features depicted by the life´s experience and its positive results.. I am the same person and luckily evolved. Those same experiences which made “a better me”, feeling that same enthusiasm but with a new emotional balance, the result of long year of self observation, self analysis and courage. The courage to look at myself in the face, to see that part of me which is less pleasant, to see those inner damages part of life´s evolution…and yes, as Gardel says in his song, 20 years is nothing. The only difference between those two pictures is my emotional maturity. A journey from that young pure essence who felt guilty and could not love herself enough, to this mature woman I am today, ready to search for a new version of “I was once…” every single day.

I choose the new me

I can state, without fear of being mistaken, that running away from those painful events and trying to ignore them without analysing and re writing them, is only a way to perpetuate them, to live them again and again. This is why, without the slightest doubt,I choose to be the new me, I carry on embracing the essence of that young adventurer with her pure and curious eyes; to this I add fortitude and observacion, slowly, constantly, a little bit today and a little bit more tomorrow.

I respect myself, I know myself every day a bit more,I sink with tact and delicacy into those obscure parts of mine, those same parts that need to be discovered with extreme care.

“Life is a breath” these are the words of this beautiful Tango. This is how I want to live my life, live every moment and experience, here and now.
Life gives us marvellous opportunities, the power to be the architects of our own existence.
We have the opportunity to live this material experience personally, to advance with our soul and heart healed and stronger, able to carry on writing our destiny till the end…then there will be a new BEGINNING

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How could I manage this

Since I was very little I have let my intuition guiding me. That soft little voice coming from deep inside, pushing us to get on that long desidered train..despite feeling the vertigo just before jumping on it. This same little voice came to visit me on the second day of the “involuntary meditation” that we all were forced to live and it whispered..” what if you dare to offer your customers online sessions”….and apart from this..” what happened to your plan to open yourself to the world, to trespass those borders and limits both personal and physical”?

The following morning I made up my mind, and although with fear I started my proyect “ YES” and so I took the courage and felt the trust necessary to jump in a sea full of opportunities…I told myself, life will direct me, day after day, in my journey.

How could I manage this

I got down to work and as if by magic, everything came to me: the idea of the logo, the colours, the right words and how to structure them. It was like someone was whispering all this through a pair of earphones… these feelings were so captivating. I felt like a child..totally amazed..with butterflies in my stomach flying crazily up and down. Who would believe this? ( those who know me well, can tell you easily, how little technological I am…or at least till now). Without even realising it, I found myself recording videos, writing blogs, publishing in Instagram, Facebook… Life was giving me, on one side, the vibrant enthusiasm of “ a new pair of shoes” but on the other challenging my patince and my tolerance to frustration. I had to put a lot of passion in everything I was doing and hand by hand with Oscar (with whom I feel totally lucky sharing my life´s journey) I managed to raise like the foam in the bathtub, step by step, every day a bit higher. Every day facing a new challenge, new obstacles which were constantly testing my ability to learn new tasks. I found myself vulnerably exposed to the unknown and abruptly taken out from my comfort zone.

Life gives me the opportunity to grow and evolve

I soon started to realise that I was not associating the days of the week as I used to do till then ( monday, thursday, sunday), instead I was now counting the days in relation to the difficulties and barriers I had to face on a particular day and how I managed to overcome them. This encouraged me to tell myself that this life was offering me the opportunity to grow, to evolve despite the complicated situation we were all experiencing; this was depending on my willingness to compromise to YES I WANT and on being ready to overcome my limiting mental programmings.

Life is abundant, supportive, showhing me “everything is possible” if I really believe it, inside and outside me; if I am gratefull every single day; if I love myself¨; if I allow myself to grow at my pace. It is so, I realise with excitement that ,when I bet on myself and on moving forward, life looks at me with a smile and says “ I too, bet on you” Do you know why? Simply because I am the first betting on myself..and I dare,I allow myself to be, I hug myself..I love myself uncontionally, for who I am, with my perfect imperfections.

Are we personally responsible for how we feel?

I leave open to discussion the following reflexion in this first Blog: “Are we personally responsible for how we feel “? I will write down how I feel about this, maybe this can useful to you.
I can tell you I felt free from the moment I stopped caring about what people think and say about me. I feel I have grown a pair of beautiful wings and I am very proud of them.

That was the day I managed to put toghether all the pieces of my puzzle and shouted out “Eureka!” I do not need anyone`s approval…I approve myself. Even though this can seem silly to you, this was for me like discovering the gunpowder.

To end this blog I would like to thank you for taking some of your very valuable time to read these words, written from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for being here and now.
Let us start our adventure together!
I will write to you again very soon!

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My personal thanks to Elio Estudio to offer me their techological Knowdlege and great experience.

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