, ,

Love yourself for real…to love yourself more

Come on in…!  This space is always open for you. Put yourself at ease and take a seat. The play is starting. I tell you …

Maybe you are asking yourself what is the connection between the picture with the gummies and the title “ love yourself for real ..to love yourself more” ? And you are very right to ask yourself this question. I will open the drop down list so you will see the connection.

The other day, in one of those “invaluable”  visits to the “supermarket”, where everyone was wearing a mask, I passed in front of a very tempting bag of gummies and my mouth started  watering inevitably. My God, how delicious! Straight into the basket! 

I arrive back home, put the shopping in its place, blah , blah, blah…basically doing what every person does when returning from shopping. But with the “candies” I have the childish habit to open the bag and put all of them in a crystal bowl, as you can see in the picture…I love it!

I  can feel I am flying back in time, to those amazing years of my childhood when we used to celebrate the birthdays at home.  That smell of pure sugar..laughs…without any worries, the freedom.  How nice to recall those moments and revive those emotions!

I abstracted myself for some time ( I am not sure if for 10 or 15 minutes) and went to fly freely”

When I came back from that fantstic journey I thought “I simply adore it”!…I put myself in motion for my next post.. down to write!

The moment of thruth is now, so you will be able to understand the connection between the picture and the title I have chosen.

Mother´s Day

The following day, last Sunday,was the first Sunday of the month…celebration of Mother´s day, name-day of every mother and for me of every woman too.  My two sons wished me a wonderful Mother´s day and I felt so touched; the eldest, 24 years old, lives independently  “ Happy Mother`s day mum. I love you”. The joungest, 19 years old, between Saturday night and Sunday 00.00  writes to me from his father´s home” Happy Mother´s day mum, you are the best mum I could ever had. I love you very much”

How many things we have learnt together,  and personally …even more! The journey till here has been long, but worth…so much!  It would be much better  if we were able to  listen to  that voice, which is always right; that inner voice which accompanies us at every step! The comfort ,of being able to carry on despite all the bumps on the way, is immense. There have been, there are and there will always be bumps…Step after step, through dark forests, which are our great teachers, we have learnt to climb higher.  And yes we do learn, of course we do.  I hold on, in line with the interior wisdom…I have kept my confidence. NOW life is telling me again” here you are, your undeniable evidences, decisions you made and you did it well, firm in front of strong winds and high waves…here you are, more presents for you…you deserve them. We enrich each other and we learn to respect one another too.  What a satisfaction! I felt and I feel  full of happiness.

To love; is so good to love oneself with responsibility and give ourselves the right place when we know we have to do it. I am decided and I am taking action in first person, jumping over that tight knot of “what will they think”, “ How can I behave like that” “ I must sacrifice myself”…and all those social dictations and programmings trespassed  down from generations to generations. Unfortunately we have absorbed them as absolute thruths  without even thinking “ Is this right for me?.. Should I express my opinion about it?..how egoist are the kids…!  My dears, once again our index finger is pointing at ourselves with such a clarity.  Are you firm? Do you talk about your needs with those you love? Do you love yourself? And the one million dollars…Do you listen to your inner little voice or do you shut it up and drown its messages?

“ Love yourself for real…to love yourself more”

The only possible way is to engrave with profound respect the following belief in our heart “ you will love your neighbour as yourself”. Only if based on this, you can build a honest relationship with unconditional, respectful and delicate love.   Start with yourself, if you love yourself for real then you will love more and you will be loved back even more!  Make these reflections ! Can you remember what the airstewardess says when they give you the basic security procedures? In case of cabin depressurization the oxigen masks, contained in the compartment above, will drop automatically in front of you. First of all wear your mask, breath in and then you can help other to put their mask on.  Be corageous and honest with yourself…it is very easy to fall into victimism or  live under the influence of secondary benefits.

From our victimism we feed the “ he/she did this to me, he/she told me this, I cannot do anything about it”..Stop and think!: Do you want to be trapped like an hamster in the wheel or do you want to get out of it with the power of “just jump”?

As a secondary benefit we can sense that suspicios attitude to control other people; by doing so we prefer to persist in our “ suffering and complaining mode” which is our well known comfort zone;  we should not depend on anyone apart from ourselves.

 Let us take the bull by the horns  and be responsible for our own life, let us build our life starting from our own “ self” and let us give others the opportunity to learn and choose how they want to build their own life

Unconditional love…towards ourselves first…LOVE YOURSELF FOR REAL …TO LOVE MORE.

?

/by
, , ,

I dare to be

This triggered  a sequence of words like: “different, freedom, breaking the mould, get out from the status quo, dare”.  Another sentence followed automatically “I dare to be “. Soon after, another mental click takes place and I ask myself “ would it be possible to see sheep more weird than a black one? What if there could be sheep of my favourite color, orange? Who knows if there is any image showing orange sheep?…of course there must be some…

Curious like a child I started to look in Google and typed in ” pictures of orange sheep free from any copyright”.  I scrolled page after page, until, there they were…beautiful..three of them, with a fantastic orange fleece! Immediately I thought..these are definetly more rare than a black sheep ( they will coincide with my singularity…have a look at the picture accompanying this post).

Without having to look for it, these were the preliminars that inspired me to choose the title of my third post, giving me the pleasure to share it with you now.

I dare to be

“I dare to be” Now I feel I have achieved the inner strenght to give myself the permission to be. Everything goes through a process that re-writes all those life´s events, that in some circumstances, hurted us and left signs deep down in our being. Life is very wise and it presents those same events, again and again during our terrestrial journey, until we are exhausted by the sufferings and finally point the finger at ourselves. We become aware of the lesson and this allows us to re-write the event, like in a tabula rasa and make of it our new healthy vision.  From here, we move on with the total certainty that we will find more obstacles to overcome, new difficulties to learn from, new bridges to cross; this is the marvellous price we have to paid to be alive, embracing changes and uncertanties!

I am here with you

I am here with you, offering you my hand, enriched with my own personal experience. We can nurture each other…as I did when it was my time..I accepted the evidences and in that moment I asked myself “ how is it possible that some events repeat themselves over and over in my life”?  It seems that some people are there to remind me of my pain, my fear, my lack of selfesteem..blessed people, blessed circumstances!.. they were showing me IN CAPITAL LETTER, underlined in black ink to LOOK INSIDE YOURSELF. They were and are very valuable teachers who vibrate in our same frequency. Teachers who obblige us to get out of our comfortable zone (even though the comfort is painful, yet is very familiar..) unless we choose to perpetuate the pain and so re-experience it over and over again. The choice is always ours.

From my personal experience, if this can be of any help to you, I can state that every human being has the right and almost the obligation to dare to be…what each one wants to be, breaking the pattern and like  “orange sheep” jump over the norms imposing us how things need to be, like this or that…The only condition for this journey is to go with a very light equipment  and FORGIVE.  Proceeding from an inner space that have been carefully analised and healed. The paradise is here, if we want it to be here. If life gives you a spanner, a hammer and a screwdriver you have two options: a)What the hell do I do with this? b) How lucky, I have three tools!”

Create!

Create and carry on being an optimist, always embracing the feeling of gratidude. 

The gratitude offers us the opportunity to evolve, to move on, to re-write the most difficult chapters of our life and most important of all, to forgive ourselves. The  act of self-forgiveness is tough but can be done. Of course it can be done! With a strong  conviction, stepping forward, with gratefulness, with an open heart and full of curiosity.

Dare to be yourself, dare to break the mould.. What do you want to do? What is your passion? Do you already know the purpose of your life?..It does not matter if you are 18 or 90 years old, there is always an opportunity to feel better in your-self! Would you like to focus on your daily life as if it was an enjoyable game full of colors and enthusiasm or do you prefer to focus on grey and boring daily obbligations?

Come on in, the door is wide open for you…BALANCE-IN® ..your inner voice is desperatly calling you to get your attention.  Dare to be different. Plan and create your own  Journey! Please, believe you deserve all the best life has to offer.  The only distance between YOU AND YOUR BEST VERSION is in your mental programmings.  Reset yourself, start afresh, NOW it is the right moment.  You are free, open your wings and fly high..you have so much to tell to the world. This is your time, the time to nurture yourself and others thanks to your unique virtues, those virtues that identify only you and nobody else. Go on…I go WITH YOU! Are you ready to discover it?

Dare to be! ?

/by
, ,

20 year is nothing

The new post of my blog starts paraphrasing Gardel´s beautiful tango “ Volver”. This is a very intimate space and I am thrilled to share this with you,it is based on facts so real like life itself.

Early this morning, while I was opening the drawer of one of my piece of furniture in the sitting room, a picture caught my attention. A picture I had not seen for ages ( the one on the right). Mamma mia…it has been soo long! By pure chance..another picture of the past suddenly pops up in my mind ( the picture on the left). I look for it and decide to put it next to the other like a collage. I keep staring at the older picture; a time of my life I did not mind revealing my age; in a snap of a finger I am taken to my mental archive…unbelivable! In a blink my long term memory transports me to some real moments in that space, very close to my thirties. I was in full decade´s change; it usually happens to me every decade ( or so I have been noticing)I was in the full swing, ready to make life changing decisions both at personal and professional level.

Balance-In, the method

I kept flying back to that stage of my life for a long while. It is simply unbelievable how our mental programmings work. It was enough just to press a simple visual button ( the picture) to revive so cleraly and vividly scenes from the past, people, perfumes, like if I was living in a film and the old me was the main actor. As you can inmagine I bumped into some very pleasant memories and some not pleasant at all…This was more than enough to put in action my daily method “focus on what you do not like, re-write it and focus again on how you would have liked it to be, visualise it with positive emotions as part of the mental reset (base of the method Balance-in).

It was like magic. By re-writing it, focusing on how I would have liked it to be and associating positive emotions to it, I managed to change “ the feelings of that memory” from uncomfortable to pleasant.

“20 years is nothing””

Looking now at the more recent picture ( the one on the left) I carry on seeing that adventurer, that joung enthusiast woman and those features depicted by the life´s experience and its positive results.. I am the same person and luckily evolved. Those same experiences which made “a better me”, feeling that same enthusiasm but with a new emotional balance, the result of long year of self observation, self analysis and courage. The courage to look at myself in the face, to see that part of me which is less pleasant, to see those inner damages part of life´s evolution…and yes, as Gardel says in his song, 20 years is nothing. The only difference between those two pictures is my emotional maturity. A journey from that young pure essence who felt guilty and could not love herself enough, to this mature woman I am today, ready to search for a new version of “I was once…” every single day.

I choose the new me

I can state, without fear of being mistaken, that running away from those painful events and trying to ignore them without analysing and re writing them, is only a way to perpetuate them, to live them again and again. This is why, without the slightest doubt,I choose to be the new me, I carry on embracing the essence of that young adventurer with her pure and curious eyes; to this I add fortitude and observacion, slowly, constantly, a little bit today and a little bit more tomorrow.

I respect myself, I know myself every day a bit more,I sink with tact and delicacy into those obscure parts of mine, those same parts that need to be discovered with extreme care.

“Life is a breath” these are the words of this beautiful Tango. This is how I want to live my life, live every moment and experience, here and now.
Life gives us marvellous opportunities, the power to be the architects of our own existence.
We have the opportunity to live this material experience personally, to advance with our soul and heart healed and stronger, able to carry on writing our destiny till the end…then there will be a new BEGINNING

?

/by