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With or without?

con o sin

Different tastes, colours, as many as you can find in a rainbow…I find myself in one of the supermarket´s aisle,  in front of a battalion of unending combinations and permutations of the same product. There are so many to choose from that it would be better to work out a scheme, use a strategy before extending your arm to reach for a simple puffed rice cake; made as well with corn, wheat, rye, with gluten, without gluten, with chocolate, low in salt, without palm oil, with lactose, without preservatives, vegan, low in calories..for godness sake!´Very well, let us move forward. In the generation I am from, the options you had for an afternoon snack were simply limited to either toasted bread with butter or bread and hot chocolate.  I must confess, that sometimes, I feel almost overwhelmed with such an avalanche of choices. 

With or without?

WITH OR WITHOUT, two prepositions, apparently opposed to each other, one including and the other excluding. What could be marvellous for a person can result horrifying for another. The world, our world is in constant evolution, offering us every day more and more options which contribute  and take us closer to our perfect wellbeing. The choice is always ours and of course we cannot blame the lack of choices.

Duality is part of us, always present, even in the most simple things. A friends´ gathering: the waiter is standing with the block note : “ for me a beer without alcohol, for me one with and on top all the alcohol removed from hers! I do not know what to order, I cannot drink anything with sugar or with gas, I am on a diet and if I drink anything sparkling I will inflate like a baloon; I will have a glass of cava, I love bubbles, give me a full glass please …” The waiter has already won his place in heaven, he took the order and thanks God he was well prepared with his block note because we are nine people,  each one the result of a father and a mother and each one with totally different tastes…That was beyond duality, that was plurality, a marvellous mixture where respect excels; I respect myself and I respect you.

Emotions

How would you feel if  now, you could choose among all the emotions WITH KNOWLEDGE AND WITHOUT SUFFERING? All and every single of our emotions are necessary otherwise they would not be innate in us.  How wonderful is to be able to feel  and identify them first, to then, be able to live them with balance and plenitude!

Balance

Now I leave open the question that leads us to the essence of it. What is balance for you? I invite you to do a short excercise with me..close your eyes and bring to your mind a pleasant situation you have experienced before,..now associate it with the emotion it provokes in you…even though for a few seconds…Can you feel that wellbeing?…so easy is the balance for me.  It is a matter of patience so that you are able to extend the lenght of that wellbeing longer and longer, during your day. It is a matter of practice, of constance; just try and you will see. There will be a moment in which most of your day will be plesant, slowly, slowly you tranform your life in a pleasant game where there will hardly be any undesirable situations, unless you decide to focus on the opposite. Remember WE ARE WHAT WE DO WITH WHAT HAPPENS TO US. The same happens when you practice your physical balance; balancing on one leg, focusing your look on a particular spot, concentrating…WITH PERSEVERANCE AND PATIENCE…WITHOUT RUSHING, WITHOUT EXPECTATIONS..by so doing you will achieve more and more STABILITY  for longer period of time.

Love

From this mindful state rises the possibility, every time more real, to be able to live emotions like: LOVE WITHOUT ATTACHMENT, PRUDENCE WITHOUT FEAR, AND STRENGHT WITHOUT VIOLENCE.

A state of pure LOVE, without any demand, nor to myself neither to the other person…free like the wind and ready to answer with RESPECT AND SWEEETNESS; “ I am sorry I have not fullfilled your EXPECTETIONS,  but it happens I am focusing on fulfilling mine.This answer is delicate like the flight of a butterfly, without dissaranging your hair and without a glimpse of culpability…This is the sky on earth, the paradise!

It is amazing to feel confident and able to transmit, communicate what you really want with delicacy, WITHOUT HOSTILITY, without violence and WITH LOVE!

Prudence

PRUDENCE free from FEAR empowers us so that we reach our highest level and our worthiness. WITH HUMILITY and decision, tell your truth, fully, WITHOUT FEAR. Become aware that your thoughts can be your best friends or your worst enemies. Once a thought, positive or negative, has settled into your mental space,  and at times just for a second, you will realize how your inner voice is shouting out…EMOTION on the way!

The emotional archive

THE EMOTIONAL ARCHIVE gets ready to access the folder number 3, paper 4, second  paragraph associated with that SAD experience you lived when you were 7 years old which is very similar to the one you are living right now at 48 years old…How is this possible? Very simple: our LONG TERM MEMORY is in charge to file all those events associated with emotions relevant to our life, in such a way that, should something similar repeats itself in the future we will be able to recognise it and get ready to take out our handkerchief, cry a river and sink in the depest sea of our SUFFERING.  Maybe this is the right moment to say, wait a second! THANK YOU for reminding me the sadness I felt in that event and I am feeling right now, but I prefer to live it again WITHOUT any suffering, neutralising the  emotion. Yes , I am sad, it is true, I feel sadness, but I will take this event as it is, meaning WITHOUT hurting myself.

I end this post sharing with you a deep EMOTION: just a couple of hours ago I have received such a lovely piece of news that the emotion of HAPPINESS has presented itself covered in tears. A cry of joy, that one when you feel your heart is jumping out of your chest, so gigantic and deep as my eternal  gratefulness to believe in life and in my dreams.

 Welcome to the marvellous world of your EMOTIONS!

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Everything comes and goes

One more day to live. I sit down to write about myself, my feelings, what is going on in my life in these days. I am observing the beauty in the photo I am sharing with you today and suddenly a wave of thoughts flood my mind, so many, that my fingers are unable to follow their speed and turn them into written sentences.  I am going to focus, otherwise I will diverge from the subject and I will be the only one able to understand what I am talking about.!

Life is a pure gift

Life is a pure gift, if so we want to see it. Just the other week I had the privilege to visit the amazing city of Oporto. Reason? I drove my son Pablo there to start his Erasmus, to start his almost totally independent life and to start a new chapter of mine as well.  It is much easier to digest the first event than the second. And why is that?  For a very simple reason;  even though there are a few exceptions, in general, here in Spain, we are very used to tell ourselves senteces like this “ I have a life too, apart from taking care of my children and see them growing..” but in reality, the story is very different. Things change in the blink of an eye; we change our plans as soon as our children approach us asking..” What are you doing mum..? In case you have nothing to do it would be amazing if you could drive me to the Uni. I have organised to study there with some friends and I am running very late..” 

Time to fly

I go back to the photo: the grandeur of the Duero´s river, a large mass of water, where everything flows as life does. A process that comes and goes, new levels of awareness that leave behind many things that do not correlate to us nor to the full development of our children anymore...time for them to fly with their own wings and for me to fly too, higher than before, letting it go, in a flash. The traditional patterns, those false concepts made me believe that the EMOTIONAL DETACHMENT is the behaviour of a bad person, is that feeling you are a bad mother or a bad father if you are not totally focused day and night on your children…just a moment… Let me refrase it and ask myself the following question: Maybe is  easier to live our life focused on other people´s necessities, to care for them and leave our responsibility on the side in order to avoid asking directly to ourselves what are my necessities and how do I chose to live my life?  

Now it is my turn

This situation is very common and it has been described in psychology as the EMPTY NEST SYNDROME…check it out..!..whoever thought about this definition deserves all the respect nontheless it gives me chills.  Apart from this, which has not got so much importance, it is totally true, the definition expresses very well that EXISTENCIAL EMPTINESS felt by the parents. A feeling with greater impact if we have not prepared along the way for this moment so to be able to turn the situation around and said out loud “ Now it is my turn..”  Everything else is a simple desire to play the role of  HELPLESS EMOTIONAL VICTIMS which at this stage of the movie ( we are all around half century old) and with children of this age, is defenitly out of place.

Everything comes and goes

The treatment for this EMOTIONAL STATE: live for yourself, enjoy your time, re-create yourself and kwon yourself better…NOW  there are no more excuses..now you cannot hide behind anyone else…now you are totally with yourself, it is the time to check if you are happy with your life, as it is, as you have structured it; maybe it is the perfect moment to RE-ADJUST a lot about yourself, about your surroundings.  Who knows if you have realised life is short, the children have now grown up and you come to terms that EVERYTHING COMES AND GOES..At best it is time to live your Erasmus, do not take me wrong, I am not suggesting you have to go party all night long as if there was not a tomorrow.  I am talking about LIVING THE PRESENT FULLY AND MINDFULLY, whatever YOU CHOOSE TO, open yourself to the new, re-designed the  new period that life has offered you like AN OPPORTUNITY TO START AGAIN.

 

The choice is in your hands…What is your point of view, how do you want to see it? Oporto city offers you two sides of the river; it is said that without these two different positions the beauty of Douro river would not be complete. You have given great dosis of dedications and constance to lead them so far.. Are you ready to swim to the other side of the river and fullfill yourself ? Enjoy the journey.

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Let´s go shopping!

Vamos de shopping

I am going shopping, are you coming? I am sure you won´t deny this is one of the most desirable PLEASURES of us women, since the  use of reason.. It seems like yesterday, when I was 5 or 6 years old, and I used to hide in my mother´s wardrobe.. I simply loved to put my little feet in her high hill shoes, play around with them and feel like an adult! 

Let´s go shopping!

Going back to the gender´s theme, without any type of discrimination,  THE OBSERVATIONAL LEARNING PROCESS is the one that creates behavioural patterns you will then repeat in your future life. Unless you live in a family constituted by open minded parents, since the early ages, girls are taught to play with “ girly stuff” like dolls, little houses, make up kit, while boys with “boyish stuff” like football, cars, trailers, ride bicycles..

Of course there are exceptions and without going very far, I always loved playing with colorful dresses and looking myself in the mirror, but on the other side, I was not very keen in dolls, even though for Christmas I used to received many different ones, not having asked for them at all. As a  result of all this, we can easily  say that the number of men who enjoy going shopping is very limited as the number of fingers in our hands.. 

“The model´s walk momentum”

Can you believe that my unstoppable desire of GOING SHOPPING, has recently completelychanged , with my great amazement. I am still fascinated by lovely garments, piece of furniture to decorate my home; I still enjoy the beauty, what is elegantly made, the pleasure in all the potential combinations of styles, textures, of this thing with that one and yet thinking  “I have just fallen in love with that sofa or that handbag”.  Or I feel simply delighted at the look of one of my home´s corner after I have changed around the location of all the furniture.

Live the  ENCHANTING MOMENT; when you are in front of the mirror, giving yourself compliments, appreciating and liking yourself; it is a very HEALTHY HABIT. I strongly recommend it to you. Take off all THOSE SELF-SABOTAGING AND LIMITING THOUGHTS. This is the moment I baptised, when I was much younger,  as “ the model´s walk momentum” 

“I, me, with myself”

Back to shopping. I do not know if the same  happens to you but I still love going shopping alone. It is a moment I enjoy very much, telling “ I, me, with myself” , deciding what I take and what I leave. I am comfortable going with others too, do not take me wrong. It is still very pleasant, but somehow we feel forced to come out from the changing room and ask “ what do you think, does it fit me well ?”

Here come the opinions…and ..each one is very personal. Even though the  choice is very clear in your mind you may have to deal with various of your friend´s comments , which at times can result inopportune too, before being able to joy the queue to pay. In general we can feel very confident with ourselves, yet sometimes, strange ideas go round and round in our head, like : I think I have not looked at myself properly  in the mirror as I could seen a bottom which can cause an heart attack, it is really so big?

The first impression is the one that counts

A great opportunity to be objective and to tell yourself: “ the first impression is the one that counts…whatever  follows, is me staying in front of the bedroom´s mirrow and the mirror giving me one of these answers: you are amazing!  The other a bit less pleasant “ Jesus Christ, how could I possibly buy this!

Is THE EUPHORIA of the moment, that way of feeling high, which at times is almost forcing you to drown your sorrows in the shopping´s act. It is more than proved, that there are few things able to produce such an increase in your WELLBEING HORMONES and so fast like those triggered by SHOPPING.

It does not matter if they are clothes, shoes, a car or all the weekly magazines about home decoration, it is like a refuge, a haven, a purchase that creates INSTANT PLEASURE, served on a tray with the color you most like. It is that feeling of walking down the street like “ pretty woman” with your fingers on the verge of gangrene for all those bags, that strong urge to arrive home quickly to try them on ..SHOW THEM OFF for the first time, and not only the clothes but those new FEELINGS, new EMOTIONS, that smell of somenthing new, a new beginning, a SUPRISE.

Dressed with happiness

Let us fully enjoy it, why not! Everything is healthy, as long as balanced. The only condition, from my point of view, from my high shoes, is to leave home already DRESSED WITH HAPPINESS. Shopping should add multiple satisfactions on top of the one we already have and not be an happiness only derived in fuction of the shopping.

Here the order of the factors is very important because if you alter it, the result is definetly another. I took me a few spring´s seasons to assimilate the concept but now I can write about it with total clarity: enjoy fully everything this material world is offering without any type of limit, feeling you are DRESSED WITH HAPPINESS before reaching the changing room.

What could be another meaning of this amazing material experience if not experiencing everything our soul long for?

Enjoy the shopping! ?

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Color(=Color) Calor (=Heat)

Color y Calor

It is a pun, a game of perceptions and feelings. Is this perception common to everybody or are there many ways as there are people to perceive it?

Two names, substantives, bringing to life two wonderful concepts, very different or very close, depending on your interpretation, written almost in the same way, apart from one vowel (O & A).

Both perceived through the senses, as a superficial perception; you can see a color thanks to your eyes and the heat..What happens with the heat?…Let us take it step by step

Color (=Color) Calor (=Heat)

I recall with warm feelings Pau Dones, a singer, and especially the refrain of one of his songs “ it depends, everything depends…”

What the refrain says, applies with certainty and truthfulness to taste and color. Thanks God! But can you immagine how boring the world would be, if everyone were to perceive things exactly in the same way…?

When I talk about colors I keep on using the same anecdote, which is very versatile for  different people and situations.

Everything depends on the eye that looks at it

The situation:  you are talking with a friend who wants to renovate a bit the house and is already  thinking to paint the walls with a different color.  You mention the fact you are not sure if she refers to white- pearl or white bone. Your friend keeps quiet for a while and then replies back “ when you say white-pearl, you are referring to white egg, are you not ? Then you assume a thouthful expression and say “ well, that is not the same, is it? I believe that white- pearl is more pure, while the other has a brown component mixed with it…” The outcome of this; there are so many shades of the same color and sub-shades that you can have so much fun looking for it! Everything depends on the eye that looks at it..I have experienced the same situation myself, there has been a before and an after my eyes were operated for presbyopia.

Now I observe the color of these and those things with amazement, and it seems they have gained  more beauty, more definition, more life and actually the same has happened to me!

The light of colors is the result of a process between the human eye and the brain. The light receptors located at the back of the eyes transmit the messages to the brain, which as consequence, and based on our previous experiences, creates the sensations associated with the color. What a miracle!

Long time ago Newton observed that color was not inherent in the objects. In reality, the surface of the object reflects some colors and absorbes all the others. Therefore we only receive and perceive the colors reflected..what a fascinating play of lights!

The best or the worst of every perception

Let us dedicate some lines to the largest organ of our body, yes excatly that, the skin! The skin is in this case the receptor of heat. The heat as well, is perceived differently, everyone lives it, in his/her own way, according to the circumstances..I can tell you a lot about this as I am in the midlle of my menopause, putting the blanket on and taking it off , in the blink of an eye!

Let us go back to how we perceive the heat through the skin; very interesting and complex. The hypothalamus is in charge to regulate our body temperature and it can do this with the help of  nerve cells called thermoreceptors…  Even though my knowledge is only theoretical I cannot avoid to feel amazed.  Don´t you think the coordination´s ability of our organs to offer us the most comfortable option, is a miracle? I get back to the fact of how we feel it, as the individual  perception is the pillar of this discussion. This is how I see it, this is how I feel it, this is how I live it.  I am not talking about self-deceivement, I am talking about the fact, we can keep the best or the worst of every perception.

The journey of self-discovery

It is time for some action after so much theory.  If you feel like trying somenthing new, let us do it!

I propose we do an exercise, which is quite curious and easy at the same time.  We need to go back to our childhood for a while or better practicemore to avoid forgetting what it means to be a kid.  During the Balance-in¨s sessions, I accompany many people in their journey of self-discovery using different techniques and  there is a special moment, in which I decide ,togehter with the person, to choose a scene or a landscape. From here the person starts to interact with his/her own emotions using the senses…This is how it goes… If you were to associate a color with the  emotions you are feeling in this precise  moment, what color would it be?  Let us move a step forward and define this with more precision at a kinestetic level, meaning:  how do you feel about your body´s posture and how would you describe the feeling your body is transmitting to you. At this point I would ask the following question..If you were to associate a temperature to the emotion/s you are perceiving right now what would it be?

Having reached this stage we would be able to say that color and heat have more similitudes than differences.  However this can be, it  depends on every person´s perception and there is no doubt that both, color and heat, contribute to make our world much nicer. The amazing empire of the senses.

And… let us carry on with our evolution, my dear readers. Another fantastic time shared togehter has gone. ?

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The Divine Comedy

La divina comedia

Let us play down the present problematic circumstances and have a look at the amazing piece of literature wrote by Dante “ The Divine Comedy”. By saying play down, I do not want to suggest  we should live our life with closed eyes and indifference, on the contrary, with eyes wide opened, keeping calm, observing objectively and with the right concern, what is going on, so to be cautious enough.

Today I am going to focus on one of the masterpieces of the universal literature. In my overview, I will try to make honour to this jewel that has accompanied us since the long gone Middle Ages. I will literally keep this suggestive title to re-create the reality of these days, August 2020.

The Divine Comedy

This epic comedy is divided in 3 parts: hell, purgatory and paradise; this is how Dante himself structured them, departing on a discovery journey in the depth of his own self and his sourrondings. Relax, my dear readers, as in any comedy we will reach a happy ending. The Italian genius tailored- made the marvellous transitions through the three levels in the search of some existencial answers with the help of a religious input, as it was strongly imposed on those times. A man of principles and ESSENTIAL VALUES openly supporting the cultivation of love, kindness, RESPECT and JUSTICE as much as detesting on the other side: LYING, cowardice, ABUSE and mistreatment.

A lot of water passed under the bridge since this masterpiece came to light, around 1370, right in the transitory period  between the high Middle Ages and the Renaissance… at that time, the man was already looking for answers about the meaning of life…in this world and beyond!

Despite a vision, deeply influenced by long rooted concepts imposed at that time by religion, philosophy and teology, our author managed to look inside his self, beginning an inner journey, in the attempt to clarify questions like What am I doing here?, What is the meaning of everything I can see? What happens after we die?  I will slow down a bit as I want to make sure you are not even  implying I intend to analise and criticise this masterpiece..totally the opposite and far from it!

Something much easier. The title of this post came to my mind purely as an intuition and at once, I took the amazing opportunity to make a parallelism between a man that lived more than 700 years ago and how I ,or any other man of our time, can think. The original title was “Comedy” , simply like that, yes, it was at a later stage that one of his colleagues, Boccaccio, added “Divine” for the masterpiece was full of themes about God.

What type of comedy are we living today?

I will stand to the simple original title for now. I would like to define the meaning of Comedy in accordance to the principles found in a dictionary : a play characterized by its HUMOROUS, RIDICULE tone, THE LACK OF CONSITENCY and its depiction of amusing people or incidents, in which the characters ultimately thriumph over adversity with a happy ending.

Now I am going straight to the point, with respect but withour fears…well beyond the present tendencies, colours and borders What type of comedy are we living today?  Is there any consistency in all this “theatre” we are experiencing, where we play either a main or secondary role? I totally agree we are only able to do little and practically in a limited way too, and I am not  instigating the streets like a hero, even though, considering it carefully, it would not be such a bad idea either. As a matter of fact I simply want to bring into this situation what my mind  dictates..”

Libertad

COMMON SENSE, my dear friends, let us come down to earth and consider how much this situation is actually affecting one of our most basic rights, the FREEDOM to know and to have a voice in the matter, despite all those HALF NEWS, ablsolutely incoherent till the point to make us feel sick. But why? Very easy, if we were to know what there is really  behind THE STATE OF ALARM that keeps us terrified, I am pretty sure that fear could turn into rage, a healthy rage,  the type that  pushes us to TAKE ACTION and make a change. It may sound utopian but as I always say,  let each of us start from home and breath some honest and corageous air. Everything is possible, especially if we start making a little effort to see what lies beyond  the courtains..for sure we will feel that sensation of EMPOWERMENT and relief passing through our entire body.

The truth is the only way to freedom

I am closing this chapter with a very simple sentence which makes me shake deep down, till the bones; you, tell me the TRUTH and I will decide what to do about it, always tell me the thruth, not half, but in full, no matter if it is painful..at the end of the day the truth is the only way to freedom and pain is actually optional.. Are you coming and AWAKING?  Believe me, this is not only a choice, but a necessity if we want to give a survival´s chance to our planet. 

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Evolution or involution?

Evolución o Involución

I wake up; an amazing morning here in Sevilla, an unbelievable mild temperature for being August, we could easily think we are in October. I am enyoing this rare fresh weather so much as this is so, so unsual for this time of the year. I start with my daily rituals, which I change sometimes, just to avoid falling into a routine; I have breakfast, meditate, read…but today, I run full of illusions, to my laptop. These are the effects of a film I saw a couple of days ago which got into my mind much more than I would have expected it. I give you a brief idea of what it was about; I do not even remember well the title, but it is a futuristic movie, actually more present than we think…a world contained inside what is defined as civilisation, whatever is outside its limits is to be considered uncertain, unsafe, unpredictable, totally in contrast with a predictable existence, free from surprises, dull but safe.

Evolution or involution?

Everybody, men and women, wear an uniform, trousers and jacket immaculate white. Everything is as it can be expected; people are living a superficial and peaceful life under the strictest control. Everyone is part of THE LARGE HERD, everyone is productive, everyone lives in a flat that has been perfectly designed and is fully automated.  Interestingly everyone is part of an homogeneous society, enjoying, the so called feeling of belonging but apparently taken to its extreme. I say apparently for the simple fact they are living in a society and yet feeling absolutely alone.  Apart from working togehter they have very little social life, little appetite, only few goals and zero personal desire:  a REGRESSIVE society, PROGRAMMED to be totally productive for the comunity. Paradoxically  a comunity which is more than EVOLVED, and totally TECHONOLOGICAL. Does this image sound somehow familiar to you?

I refrain from giving an aswer to the question, simply to avoid indulging in demagoguery, to put more wood on the fire, a fire that lately has become something more than suffocating.

What would you say is the common denominator  in the society presented in this movie?

For me, without any trace of doubt, is the total absence of emotions. Once the emotions have been supressed then people would accept to do what is best for the comunity. Chain work, executed in a robotic way, this is the result for being very well educated academic human beings.  

Black sheep

On the other side of the coin, and it could not be different, our protagonist couple is proud to prove …”  that love and emotions always prevail…” even though they are considered weird, the famous black sheep and defined as divergent. They are the ones who break the rules of the system.  They are encouraged to be vaccinated to keep under control “the evil caused by emotions”. An evolving society, going where and for what purposes? Is there a spiritual purpose in a society where one does not even think there is a soul? The best word that comes into my mind to reply to all these overwhelming queries is INVOLUTION. Have  we not realised yet that those futuristic movies, we considered fantastic and far away from the reality, are actually already here, in this precise moment, knocking at our door as crude facts?

Yes to evolution and technology, but not at any cost

I am totally in favour of  progress, technology and evolution, of course I am, but in a conscientius way and NOT at any cost. What about freedom, our voice, the right to vote to allow it to myself and  allow it to you? Keeping our mouth shut, meaning it literally, is not the solution and this is why I open it and express my personal opinion.  Who knows if this is the solution;  allowing the world to be held  in the hands of a small powerful group, able to lead the people however they feel like, through fears and repression. I would encourage God, Hallah, Buddha and the whole  Universe to come down to earth to tell me towards what type of evolution is this world leading us to.

I am feeling  exactly in the same way you can perceive me through these lines, totally on fire. This movie has awaken my unflattering vision of our reality; obbey, even by force, even though you do not understand it, even without feeling it, it is an abolute thruth, and if you dare moving a millimiter out of the queue be ready to be punished and judged.

Let us react my dear fellow travellers and  put some light to this nonsense.

How we feel and how we would like to feel

The first step is to become aware of how we feel and how we would like to feel. A first step would be  to recognize  that our senses are alienated and numb…I invite you to remove your labels from your head and say openly where you want to go, right from your conscience. Let us balance the following. Is it worth evolving in such a way? If we were to follow this road, it would be advisable to revisit the meaning of the word evolution outlined in the dictionary.

What ever it might be it is extremely important to know “where you are standing, where the boat is heading and knowingly all things with their proper name…”  While we choose to be aware, the evolution and development of the species is our responsibility. While we choce to be asleep, which is another option to choose from, we will live our life like puppets, like a ship without a master, being  in involution and despite having a lot to say we opted to keep quiet.

The simple fact to reflect about it is the first step toward the conquest of happiness, in a futuristic world that has come to stay. The choice is yours.

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It is one of those unplesant days when you feel everything inside you is stirred, upside down and you are not sure if it is for this or that; maybe because my partner did not give me the attention I was expecting, or the cashier at the supermarket looked at me in disaproval while putting the trolley too close to the till area..JUST PROJECTIONS! Let us connect with our INNER CHILD and live that moment of pain, caused by the lack of attention of a father too busy working or a desperate mother, almonst on the verge of collapsing, having to cope and deal with all the home´s responsibilities.

You will never be alone

Stop, immediately, does not matter what you are doing, caress your face, look yourself in the mirror and let a few or many tears run down; this is excatly what your soul is asking you to do. In this precise moment you will discover, with amazement, how your resentment, your rage, your sadness will vanish. Recognise your pain and embrace it, this is the only way to trascend it.

Today I feel tired, nevertheless, I feel I want to carry on living THE GAME OF LIFE, this unending process; if I were to think differently it would certainly mean I have passed to a different phase of my life. Today I feel very tired,  breathing and  sighing deeply..a memory comes to my mind, the words of a song belonging to a singer I am unable to recall now…” there are days in which one  feels nothing is happening…” I am an impatient human being my dear reader, most likely as you are too and sometimes I really wish I could dress up as Tinkybell and rub my nose like in Bewitched, making things appearing in front of me exactly as I wanted, jumping over the obstacles, avoiding the long waiting , the long silence and the constant listening.. Are with me?..I wait and despair too, I am human and even though 100% spiritual, I complicate and uncomplicate myself, yet I let myself live all this..what a relief! This is the right opportunity to visit the past so that our inner child can feel comfortably covered, loved, pampered and you can whisper softly and tenderly in his /her ear that “ does not matter what happens in life, you will always be there, HE/SHE WILL NEVER BE ALONE, MUM AND DAD loved and always will love you but they are exausted, fighting their own existential battles, facing their own monsters, asking their previous generation to have a bit more love and attention. Be the first of your CLAN, my dear boy or girl, to realise where all this comes from and break the chain of your resentments, your struggles, your sufferings.  Be the one to bring the change into your family history!

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As you can see, my dear friend, I have not given a title to this post.  I started writing it freely without a title in mind and decided on the way I was going to leave it like this, leaving on the  side the logical structure and order any written work usually has and would be good it were so.  

This has happened for a very powerful and yet simple reason; what is most important for me is to be able to communicate with you through an opened heart, directly, with my deepest emotions, with my EXISTENCIAL EVOLUTIONS,  and like peeling an onion, I offer you an extra layer, DEEPER INSIDE.

Once again I invite you to try sitting in front of your computer or booklet and experience by yourself ,the magical exercise of self discovery through THE PRACTICE OF THE WRITTEN EXPRESSION, without any particular pretension but simply  as one of the best MEDICINE FOR THE SOUL.

I leave the SOUL FREELY IN THE AIR, I will communicate through my body, allowing its  flow to run and connect among what I think, what I say and what I do. The same  happens when we turn on the tap, unless the pipe has ben cut; we can learn to say YES and turn on the tap of our CREATIVITY, OPEN Pandora box and let out our dreams and desires through words.

Open yourself to a world of opportunities

What is stopping us? Very often we limit ourselves, we hide our real treasure, our real jewels which make us unique. I can easily inmagine the universe and life, full of living beings, changing their appearences once their mission has been accomplished. I see it like a board of astronomical dimension with a perfect order like in a concert. That board is like a puzzle, which will only be complete once everyone has contributed with his/ her  piece, a dosis of uniqueness  and singularity, then the puzzle will be finished.

Therefore get rid of your fears, contribute with your grain of sand and discover your PURPOSE. Forget the common coward excuse “ well to be honest I know I am just a common person…the only thing I manage to do,kind of good, is telling jokes and make lot of people laugh”  That´s not insignificant…you are contributing and helping people to connect to one of the most amazing and gratifying of our emotions, part of our inborn baggage, laughing. This innate gift of yours has the power to change people focus and perspective…woooow  An amazing purpose…develop your abilities, open yourself to a world of opportunities, undress from those false beliefs of what has to be or how it needs to be, who is stopping you from achiving this apart from you? 

Just dive in the sea of uncertanties, in the sea of everything forseen against you and realise, all that ,is only the product of MACRO PROGRAMMINGS, at a social and collective level, and MICRO PROGRAMMINGS  at individual and familiar level.

I am grateful you managed to read my therapeutic post till the end. Have you realised that by so doing you have contributed to my wellbeing?  This space of reflections and ideas I use as a vehicle to channel and analyse my moods, has turned into a new post and if we have reached this point , I want to emphasize, it is because we vibrate with very similar energy. I hope this can help your purpose of self- discovery.

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Free or a slave to…?

Libre o Esclavo

Today, my dear friend, I propose we see life under a new perspective .  I sit down comfortably,ready to write this post with the clear idea to focus on this topic as if we were playing a game.  Maybe it will help to make this controversial and sensitive subject a bit easier. Be prepared  to use some fundamental ingriedients: a profound ENGAGEMENT with your deep self and massive dosis of HONESTY. On this occasion, it would be very interesting if  we could  go further than our usual weekly reflextions which ,I hope, are still beneficial for both of us, nurturing and enriching us at a  personal level. The aim of this space we share is to encourage you, the reader, to reach your own conclusions.

I challenge you to take off everything in front of a mirror..yes, yes, you have read it correctly; an unsual exercise but UNDRESSING THE BODY AND THE SOUL goes hand in hand.

Free or a slave to…?

Have you ever stopped and thought how often YOU DO THINGS THAT IN REALITY YOU DO NOT WANT TO DO,  and how often YOU GIVE UP THINGS YOU ACTUALLY LIKE ?

Let us put these two facts together and ask the one million dollars question: Be totally SINCERE with yourself, do you consider yourself FREE OR A SLAVE TO SOMENTHING ?

Someone of you will be thinking: “well sometimes I see myself obliged by the circumstances  and there is no much I can do about it…” pehaps, some others will be thinking “ in this life you have to be part of the system, like it or not”.  Of course I agree with you: there are circumstances that require to BE PART OF THE SYSTEM but there are many others where you should GET OUT WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE AND AT YOUR CONVENIENCE TOO.

The era of addictions

It depends on the SITUATION:  a party, a job,  a celebration; we go to our wardrobe and decide :a skirt or trousers?  Depending on the people we are hanging out with, we can find ourselves DRINKING more than planned, just to fit in and not be the one saying no, when someone of the group shouts out..come on this is the last… before the last”. I live in the south of Spain and this behaviour is very much of a HABIT here. We have made of this a NORMALITY and the limits have gone well beyond, unsupectedly.  THE WORLD IS UPSIDE DOWN, in such a way that who does not drink alcohol, does not smoke, does not gamble or does not spend the whole day gossiping in the socials or is not dressing in the latest fashion, is out of phase, haggard.  On the other side of the scale, we find those who take the healthy life stile to the extremes..hours and hours of practice accompanied by a very strict diet .   From my humble poin of view we are witnessing THE ERA OF ADDICTIONS, we believe we are enjoying our freedom more than ever before, but in reality we are slaves, part of a MEANINGLESS world, leading to insanity.

WE ANAESTHETIZE OUR SENSES to gain full acces to the supposed comfort zone, where we believe we have everything under control. How am I not going to do it,  if everyone does it?..if I am not in line with the top I am a looser!

In the balance you find virtue and equilibrium

Useless to say it, IN THE BALANCE you find virtue and equilibrium, yes my dear friends, everything  done in MODERATION,  WITHOUT THE MASK ON AND WITH THE CLEAR ABILITY  TO FEEL OUR EMOTIONS.

To give you a tangible example, very often, when we give up SMOKING we replace it with” an arm robbery” to our food storage.  If we stop DRINKING alcohol we feel like out of place when socialising, is tougher to “break the ice” or we miss that idea “ now I am going to chill out”.

Without even realising it we have created a HABIT, from the habit a NECESSITY and from it an ADDICTION.  Having reached this point, I believe is very important to define this substantive, in order to clarify the negative connotations it carries. In the dictionary, the word addiction is defined as A REPETITIVE BEHAVIOUR OR CONSTANT CONSUME OF CERTAIN SUBSTANCES THAT CANNOT BE STOPPED OR IS NOT EASY TO BE STOPPED, DUE TO A PHISYCAL OR MENTAL DEPENDENCY ON IT/THEM.

Let us not deceive ourselves when we say “ I can give up drinking alcohol whenever I want..”  “ I have it under control” “ what a nonsense, I have only played three times with the gambling machine this week”…” I love challenges, this week I am going to take 8 sessions of spinning…this is definetly “more healthy” than getting drunk”…and we could carry on with many more examples.

I would like to add another important part to the definition of addiction; our brain, our central system, the one that CLAIMS ITS REWARD, ITS DOSIS OF WELLBEING, through substances or behaviours; here and now we realise our body is only a humble and obedient slave.

The choice is always yours

Now that you are in front of the mirror totally naked , no clothes and no mask ,ask yourself, saying it out loud:  “am I free or a slave? “ THE CHOICE is always yours. Be the MASTER of your decision, from your clear conscience, your real being. Recognise yourself with open eyes, remember there is nothing good or bad, apart from the anihilation of your own FREEDOM. Practise this exercise from the deepest of your honesty and find out if you LOVE OR MISTREAT YOURSELF.  Maybe you need to recognise your ADDICTION TO SUFFERING and believe me, in one way or another, this is the most common addiction among us, human beings. But once we have reached this point, then we are in the right track, towards OUR SELF LOVE AND WORTHINESS.

Here I take leave and I  wish you ,from the bottom of my soul, that you will find the courage to walk the most important path of our existence, the one of SELF-KNOWLEDGE.

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5 Ls

La memoria de un árbol

5 is the number, the richness of the meaning of these 5 words carries with it a great deal of wisdom and the success of any human being´s existence.  Today I give a wink at the English language and I will tell you the five English words:

LAUGH, LISTEN, LOVE, LEARN, LIVE 

Hello once again, welcome everyone to  the written  EXPRESSION described through WORDS.

It is through the use of words that we communicate, we express ourselves and through verbs is the invitation  TO ACT, TO MOVE.

Well I start moving and I clarify my point.  As you can see I have put the five words in a specific order which for me has a logical meaning.

LAUGH

If I say LAUGH I refer to a PRIMARY EMOTION. LAUGHING is universal, far beyond any language, race and religion. We come to life crying, which is on the other polarity of laughing, but at the end of the day they are the two faces of the same coin. Everybody has experienced at least once the following: situation = Journey;  dominion of the language = so.. so ; our frienf tells us¨: come on, you go and ask, you understand more than I do..and if you do not understand well, just smile, put Poker´s face on and done..”

Yes I have put the verb LAUGH first of the list, simply because we should have the good habit to take things a bit less serious in life, which would make our mental baggage muuuuch lighter.  SMILE AND LAUGH as you used to do when you were a child, keep this healthy habit,  draw a smile in your face as soon as you wake up and feel the benefits instantly. You will feel much better automatically, without even thinking…have a go!, release your stress, fill your lungs with air and open your heart, FREE YOUR EMOTIONS, feel the HAPPINESS of being alive and INFLUENCE  everyone around you with your great mood. 

LEARN

We are always in time to…and this takes us to the next verb LEARN.  Straight away, a saying comes to my mind“ CUSTOMS become laws”. Repeat it, keep doing it, experience it and in a very short time the daily events will have become habits. Start your morning with a smile, like carrying a flag, LEARN  to treat life like a game, where winning or loosing depends on how you see it, what apparently seemed a loss, in reality is your best result.. Something is sure, we learn to walk putting a foot in front of the other and after a few good falls, voila! The miracle takes place and we are standing easily, moving from one side to the other naturally…we all learn through trial and errors, everything else is only blah blah blah. It is very easy to say I can drive, without having turned on an engine before..let us do it, let us practice it!

LOVE

How beautiful is the verb that defines the essence of life and  can achieve anything..the following one::! Yes you are right, LOVE,  is the life´s engine, the alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end. With all my intention, I placed it in the middle of the other  verbs.  Thanks to  SELF LOVE we are the masters of our life and the creators of our own destiny . Love is an UNIVERSAL emotion, PRIMARY AND ESSENTIAL. We need to LOVE OURSELVES AND LOVE OTHERS to feel complete. Love lives immortalized in art, in science, in religions, in philosophy…LOVE is the result and the producer of many vital attitudes and experiences. ROMANTIC LOVE, MATERNAL LOVE, PLATONIC LOVE…is present everywhere around us, sometimes on the other polarity, LACK OF LOVE, a great reminder of the importance of our duty to love ourselves first of all, to then be able to establish relationships based on HEALTHY LOVE. Love can FORGIVE,  EMPATHIZE, it gives sense to WE ARE ALL ONE. We identify it with that DIVINE AND/OR UNIVERSAL supernatural power. You can find it even in the most remore part of the world,it assumes different shapes and circumstances…you just need to be receptive and LISTEN to its sounds.

LISTEN

LISTEN. There is a remarcable difference between HEAR AND LISTEN. We listen through ATTENTION, this is why it is a VOLUNTARY ACTION and it implies intention to…on the other side HEAR refers to the ability to perceive sounds through the ears. I am enchanted with the marvellous ACTIVE LISTENING…while we are silent, we keep our attention focused and we become like a blank slate, a tabula rasa, as defined by the English filosopher Locke. When we are born we are like an open hand fan, opened to opportunities, our VIRGIN MIND is keen on esperiencing. Open yourself and LISTEN TO YOUR CONSCIENCE, learn to listen to yourself and you will be able to become a virtuoso in the ART OF LISTENING TO OTHERS. I emphasize the use of ATTENTION,of an OPEN MIND and all our energy  focused to understand the message and show our speaker we are giving him/her our full attention and understanding

LIVE

It is through the observation and understanding of our emotions thar we learn TO LIVE…! LIVE AND LET LIVE!..

We will empower ourselves, once we have finally realised we are in charge of choosing the life we want to live and we do not let this responsibility on other people´s shoulders.

Thanks to this empowerment, we will be kinder and able to put ouserslves in other people´s shoes. From the moment we change this perspective around  and take charge, we will be totally confident and our emotionality will remain untouched. Who knows, maybe this is the way life tells us: really, do you still need more unpleasant lessons to wake up?  There is sush an abyss between LIVE AND SURVIVE!

I agree 100% that in life there is a time for everything; we manage just about  to survive after a financial disaster, after the loss of a dear one, during a nasty period in which we can hardly breath…but with courage and persistance we rise again above the water and like the Phoenix, we revive from the ashes. In this precise moment we say with a firm voice..” now it is my time. I am GOING TO LIVE LIFE MY WAY, and with all the honours I deserve, I am tired to be scared, finally I am aware of what this is all about, I am sick and tired to  repeat the same story again and again! It is all about wanting to do it, it depends on our will, if you really want it you can do it…This is the art of GOOD LIVING, LOVE with you heart full of desire every day, LISTEN carefully to your intuition and actively to the others,  LEARN with the mind of the beginner, without prejudices nor expectations, LAUGH OUT loud and do it about everything you can about yourself. If you like this recipe, share it and experience it.  Thank you for your time.

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Gratitude

gracias

I AM GRATEFUL  …from MORNING till NIGHT, grateful for HAPPINESS and SADNESS, for SINGING and CRYING, for YOUTH and MATURITY, for THE BEGINNING and THE END of everything…I am grateful for everything I have learnt through my experiences, which is not much, and for this, I am open to the unmeasurable magical of the UNKNOWN, to the CHANCE, to whatever has not got a predetermined pattern….well, is exactly there, in that MULTIDIMENSIONAL INFINITE you can find EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE.

Gratitude

I AM GRATEFUL for the inspiration to write this new post, my dear all, people without a face nor a name. Thank you for sharing another space with me about REFLEXIONS, all together as ONE, trying to give  A MEANING TO OUR JOURNEY, to that POWER we all have, given by THE NATURE´S STRENGHTS only with one condition: to pay attention and be quick to jump on the train of OPPORTUNITIES.  There is nothing to fear, let us take the time needed to be ready to experience it, filling our mouth with words of gratitude and waking up every morning with the same desires and illusions of a child…how many presents will the day bring me TODAY? The face could be a bit worn out but the soul will be exploding WITH MORE DESIRES TO LIVE, TO FEEL AND CARRY ON FINDING THOUSANDS REASONS TO BE GRATEFUL FOR EVERY STEP WE TAKE.

This morning, after my daily space of silence, the following reflection came to me: whatever is crossing your mental space, clashing and horrifying you, is not you, THEY ARE SIMPLY YOUR SOCIAL OR FAMILY PROGRAMMINGS, BE CONSCIOUS about them, accept them with love, get rid of those GUILTY FEELINGS, YOU ONLY ARE WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL HAPPY”. It is not about denying them but TRANFORM THEM and feel ALL THOSE UNPLEASANT EMOTIONS alienated and distant from our PERFECT ESSENCE.

More feeling and less thinking!

More feeling and less thinking! Repetitive thinking creates necessity of CONTROL. If we could control something, it would only be in this precise INSTANT, this moment, NOW; this is everything we need to know. Everything else are just attempts to trap LIFE…those same attempts that let life pass fleetingly and silently. 

Thank you LIFE for giving me EVERYTHING. I feel so lucky…awake and conscious that THIS SPACE OF INFINITE EXPERIMENTS takes me wherever I want to go… I ALLOW IT TO MYSELF…I TRUST IN ME.

Since long time ago I am on NO THINKING mode, without being silly and crazy: when someone talks, I listen carefully, then, without rushing to give an answer, I open myself to the feeling of my intuition and I let the words flowing from my mouth without choosing them consciously. How can this happen?…with PRACTICE and PATIENCE.. By squeezing every millisecond of the NOW, you can bring the CONSCIENCE alive at every moment, to fully enjoy it without the contamination of  a past PAST, nor the pre-imagined visions of a FUTURE that does not yet exist and who knows, will never exist in the way we thought about it…this is how it is…we think about a plan a b and c…but life puts in front us its plan Z…so my advice is : let it go, relax and be grateful.

Thank you for everything given to us as a present, with full hands, thanks to those SIGNS appearing all around us, in every part of this amazing planet we live on. Thanks for the ABUNDANCE and on the other side, THANKS for making me realize and bring to my consciousness I need less and less every time, able to observe with amazement how my soul is nurtured with whatever it longs for.

Peace in the storm, light in the darkness

I AM GRATEFUL I can find peace in the storm, light in the darkness, order and harmony in the chaos. Grateful I can interpret the BAD MOMENTS as great TRANSFORMATION´S MASTERS.

Thank you life for reaching out every time I need it, like a SUPERNATURAL STRENGHT, greater than myself but part of me, beating in my interior and in the interior of everyone who feels worthy to listen to that beat.  

Beat heart as you have done since the origin in the maternal chest, beat as you did with strength when coming to this world, breathing life into my lungs so that I could communicate for the first time through my first cry, amazing MIRACLE OF LIFE.

Thanks to God and the universe to equip us with everything we need and much more, from the absolute perfection nobody could have ever imagined…from the inside to the outside, our soul draws its ambitions in golden letters,  our mind send the orders for the plan and our body put them in action.  So simple and yet so complex, so perfectly orchestrated that only a superior power could have made it possible. 

The art of the good living

We are art and part …AWAKENING and learning every single day THE ART OF THE GOOD LIVING.

We are PART of that divinity , let us make good use of our mother nature and all the gifts put at our service….we come to this world naked and without belongings…we borrow everything we can possibly need during our journey…to then take off everything, leave them, to go back to make part of the UNIVERSAL ENERGY…it is only through a personal and collective RESPECT we will be able to make of our universe  A BETTER UNIVERSE.

THANK YOU  ?

 

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