vuelve a casa por navidad

It was just a matter of hanging up the phone the other day after I spoke to my son..I saw it clearly..” come back..come back home”. It was impressive how those images from an advertisement, popped up from my mental archives and took shape in my head.. The theme : Christmas sweets and the coming back home feelings…CHRISTMAS AND EMOTIONS running high.

Come back…come back home

I describe the scene to you: for me that was one of those advertisements which gets stuck into your memory and reminds you immediately that we are in the middle of the CHRISTMAS FESTIVITIES.

The young generations do not have a clue of what I am talking about but I can assure you, that if you ask your oldest, they will burst out laghing and saying “ of course I remember that advertisement and its catchy little song too..”

I have always been a confirmed EMPHATIC PERSON, so much I could almost go through the tv screen to share and feel the amazing FEELING OF HAPPINES of that mother in the advertisement, when she was opening the door to her son, at the time living abroad and coming back home for the festivities.

Speaking to myself I said” it would be fantastic if Pablo came back home on a Friday,the day I post my blog..and for my surprise I soon realised that the day18 is on a Friday…Eureka!

Life is like that and now Pablo and I are the protagonists of the story…a little bit different because I will not open the doors at home..instead I will be in the first line at the Seville ´s airport standing like a statue on that 18 evening… able to be standing there with a placard..ha, ha , ha…nonsense!  Just to see the expression on his face…” Muuum, come on, if you don´t set up a performance you are not satisfied..your unbelivable..”

The countdown has already started

I must recognise that I have not lost any essence of the child I was and still carry on being. Is there anything more lovely than being able to express freely what you feel?

I am going back to meet again with the youngest of my kids, with myself and with my SELFAWARENESS.  I am conscious that even though he is coming back to live at home after the Erasmus, the countdown has already started…you know, dear parents, this is the moment in which they get really independent… just the memory of those years of hard work remains, with that uncertanty of having done the right things or..maybe I should have done this or that..at the end these are the RISKS PART OF THE JOB, every dad or mum is conscious of it.  This is the most important task  life puts in front of us, a task we ask for, from the exact moment we decide to place the order to the stork…

The most challenging tasks of my life

In my experience, being a mother has been one of the most challenging tasks of my life.  For good or for bad, in my case luckily for good, I am unable to teach theoretically..this is why for me PREACHING BY EXAMPLE has been my modus vivendi,  the only way in coherence with who I am..and this has been somenthing my children could never recriminate to me. In this respect I used to tell them and still do; What can we do about it..there is only one mum and I am the one you got.

The list of wishes for the year

Going back to the going back home, a bit redundant and a toungue twister too, it is TIME TO TAKE ACTION.. it sounds familiar, does it not?  Yes, I am suggesting to you, my dear friends, to start writing THE LIST OF WISHES, GOALS and everything else that comes into your mind for the year we are going to receive…Let us begin from the BLACK LIST, the one stating that from this year on, you will not fail to fulfill.. RESOLUTIONS that disappear like bubbles soap year after year..

I will always have a life jacket available to put on

In case it is of any help to you, I personally use a technique, which is older than walking forward but notheless very effective: I put my trust in the DIVINE PROVIDENCE, MY INTUITION, MY OTHER SELF, or whatever you prefer to call it..I have the absolute certanty I will always have a life jacket available to put on. In one way or another the MESSENGER AND THE MESSAGE get delivered to me…It is something like our GUARDIAN ANGEL, who is permanently next to us..the same one that once we recomend ourself to, before falling into a deep sleep, bring us the right answer like MAGIC.. As it is said “ if you do not know what to do, it is better you do nothing,…simply let Morpheus embrace you, consult it with your pillow and the morning will bring you a GIFT IN FORM OF SOLUTION

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a belen pastores

Without even realizing it, we are already in the middle of the Christmas Festivities. I was not totally aware of it until yesterday, when a woman, in front of me in the supermarket´s queue, happily asked to the cashier “do I weight the Christmas sweets I have chosen, here in the fruits section or do you weight them there at the till?

The Shepperds to Bethlehem

We are at the doors to close this year, baptised  for the future geneneration as annus horribilis. 9 months  have passed since that 15 March 2020, almost like a pregnancy, which has given us the time to bring about in our mind a new creature: HOPE.

I believe that each one of us has become more or less aware of the TRANSIENCE of life, of our PHYSICAL FRAGILITY in contrast with our MENTAL STRENGHT. We are prepared much more  than we could possibly believe..we have been awakened from our letargy through a forced march, through a legal imperative.  I am referring to this state of AUTO PILOT we are now living our day to day life. A state that has now given us the opportunity to have life, the best teacher, screaming at us: “ hey you, wake up, your existence can end today, right now. Everyone of us knows that since we are born, we begin our journey towards death and yet we forget it. I am not saying is pleasant that we have been reminded of this through a WORLDWIDE CRISIS in form of a pandemic, but if this has happened, it is because life did not have any other way to make us stop and make us REFLECT.

Life has not conceeded us any more truce

A reflection to which we have all been exposed and we still carry on being exposed.  NOW life has not conceeded us any more truce. Apart from those people who have survived the World Wars, this worldwide pandemic tsunami has stopped all of us at once and has obliged us to re-think about our lives, yes or yes, from their original roots.

I am personally grateful for the shake covid has given to my life, a new opportunity to START AGAIN, to allow me to put the desires of my soul in the sun, desires that for years have been shouting out to see the light and take form.  We have lost many lives and these cruel circumstances have pushed us to rectify ourselves, showing that the pijama we are wearing is made of meat, of a devastating lighthness. Today we are inhabiting this planet and tomorrow we will not. 

It is a period of deep CHANGES

It is a period of deep CHANGES, in its FORM AND ITS ROOTS. We are experiencing a living example of NATURAL SELECTION. It may seem cruel, but it is a constant law since the world´s beginning and it includes everything indistinctively; animals, plants and human beings.  Like it or not, the LAW OF THE MOST ADAPTABLE OR THE STRONGEST is the one that rules, for its own logic, based on  the EVOLUTION OF THE SPECIES.

Let us put together all our best energies

Let us go back to these days of lights and Christmas sweets, as too many profound thoughts could turn into smoke… let us focus on the present events, which I am sure we will soon remember with a much more positive and enriching attitude. Let us start our journey with steps towards the BEGINNING OF A NEW YEAR.

To Bethlehem shepperds! Tuning in the words of this Christmas carol ….or at least in its meaning.

Let us put together all our best energies and good wishes to walk toward Bethlehem or the bread´s house, like the good sheppers did.  Yes, you read it right, Bethlehem means house of bread. The bread is nourishment for our body as well as for our soul, in the form of the DESIRES OR GOALS we want to achieve. NOURISH YOUR SOUL every day with good thoughts and direct your steps toward the BIRTH OF NEW CHALLENGES, full of UNCERTAINTY AND MAGIC.  Let us be like children again and let us replace the thoughts of PAIN AND INSATISFACTION with those of LOVE AND CONFIDENCE. The constant FAITH will take care of the rest.  Add to this large dosis of PATIENCE AND WORTHINESS.

Hope

Let us  loose the reins, without any judgment, to those children we all have inside ourselves and let us start to sing. To Bethlehem shepperds…because there was born the HOPE OF I AM ABLE TO DO EVERYTHING I CAN DREAM OF…INSIDE EACH ONE OF US.

MERRY CHRISTMAS.

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Simple as that. CAUSE  AND EFFECT.  They always go together. A perfect marriage that leads us to what we DESIRE or FEAR the most.

Are we conscious about  how we think? Have we pondered and realised that our mind is the most powerful machinery ever created?

Tell me what you THINK  and I will tell you how you FEEL

Let us go back in the past to Alan Turing, father of the theoretical computer science and precursor of  the ARTIFICIAL INTELLINGE.

Can you believe that everything started in the middle of a World War: on September 1938 Turing is recruited by the British government to interpret and traslate the  German codified messages through a machine called Enigma. The name itself reveals the concept of somenthing you cannot understand due to its ambiguity or because it goes beyond the logic perceived through our senses. 

I think therefore I am

If a man has managed to set up a machine able to think, using the same human mental abilities, would it not be correct to state that we can adjust and choose, at our own pleasure, any thought running through our MENTAL CORRIDOR?

In the exact moment you ARE ELABORATING YOUR THOUGHTS, you are CHOOSING YOUR EMOTIONS. A Jump back in the past and I find myself at the time of Rene Descartes and his famous reasoning “ I think therefore I am” This is how I summarise it, based on this post´s thematic : doubt about everything, especially what your senses show you through the body. Only if we doubt, we are able to find our truth; find your own truth well beyond the tangible world and once you have found it you will know it immediately because you will experience a great sense of  wellbeing.

The abilities to handle our emotions

We find the base of any techonological advance in the ARTIFICIAL OR INTELLECTUAL INTELLINGENCE. Any technological advance lacking EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE OR A BASE OF IT, is pure MECHANISM. The abilities to handle our emotions, to express and balance them, are exactly those abilities that differentiate us from a computer.

What is Siri missing to be more human, for example? You would agree with me that it is possible to have a conversation with Siri and obtain answers which are fairly coherent.  The only and fundamental ingredient that so far has not been possible reproducing in it, is EMPATHY.  An immense word with an immense meaning:”from my ability to FEEL and  THE KNOWLEDGE OF MY EMOTIONS I can put myself in your place;you wear your own shoes daily but I can perceive where they are uncomfortable.

The truth inside yourself

Once you are able to glimpse the knowledge of your soul,then you will  be closer to find the CERTAINTY OF THE TRUTH INSIDE YOURSELF.  This is irrefutable and even though you can not prove it by logic, you can feel it and you know it is REAL. 

In order to be able to handle my EMOTIONAL DICTIONARY and to know the meaning of my MOODS, first of all I need to search in my conscience, HOW I am thinking and WHICH are the specific THOUGHTS that are occupying my mental space.

Thoughts and emotions

To make it short; in the same way that there cannot be day without night, so there is not knowledge of my EMOTIONS without an identification and a previous selection of my THOUGHTS.

Once we are able to correlate correctly  our thoughts and our emotions,then we will be in a very good disposition to act in the proper way with the person next to us.

A very important advice; let us not forget, we are very good at taking care of other people´s necessities before taking care of ourselves and this is not empathy, this is forgetting to sweep our home and run to sweep the neighbour´s home with the broom in our hand.

I am ready, as I am every day, to keep my SPACE CLEAN and free from any GARBAGE, I choose to vibrate high and enjoy the amazing wisdom of those people who vibrate even higher than me. These are the people that make me reach, with their example,the life of plenitude, we all deserve

Who you want to be now

Everything can happen by simply abandoning the old LIMITING  and castrating MENTAL HABITS. I ask myself why, since the world´s creation, it is so easy for us to live in sufferings and deprivations and  so difficult, at times almost impossible, to feel ourselves WORTHY AND WEALTHY.  I know by experience that THE MACRO-SOCIAL LABELS we carry are very well attached to us.  The great piece of news is that everything can be replaced… first we make it softer by soaking them in hot water with a lot of love, then we patiently wait for them to peel off and finally we let them go.

Take you permanent marker and write very clear in the middle of your heart. WHO YOU WANT TO BE NOW.

Are you ready to enjoy your presents?  ?

Imagine

I feel an immesurable peace when I listen to the words and the piano´s sound of this hymn to life: you are a dreamer…but you are not the only one…dreaming about living a life in balance and plenitude.  This is how John Lennon, a myth, a musical genius,  lived his life, in the same way he dreamt about it, beyond skin´s colours, frontiers or situations.   The  world´s  representative of the hippies sixtieth movement “MAKE LOVE NOT WAR

During my daily life there are many more moments in which I am at PEACE with myself than those I am at war.

Imagine

Every work sustained through time with PERSISTANCE will produce its fruits. For good or for bad,  we decide the fruits we want to pick..and there is only one condition: we have to mantain ourselves vibrating in the EMOTIONAL STATE DESIRED: the equation is perfect and never fails..IMAGINE..imagine for a moment, A CALM MIND, pure LOVE..maybe some of you from your chair is thinking…this is not real..How is this possible?  My answer is my life´s  long motto “ everything is possible..if so you wish it to be”.  You can live in a wellbeing state where there is not any necessity to “ pull the rope..nor from one side neither from the other”

I am fantical about refrains and I strongly believed that in the POPULAR WISDOM you can discover THE ART OF LIVING WITH SIMPLICITY.  This is why I invite you to analyse with me, the following refrains that I am sure you have heard before:” it takes two to make a quarrel” such a real truth.  The same refrain can work for a SCIENTIFIC MIND as well as for an ARTISTIC ONE.

“It takes two to make a quarrel”

Here is the explanation for a scientific mind. Ladies and gentlemen let us consider the PHYSICAL LAWS OF TENSION:  I will explain it in a simple way; it is obvious that if we hold a rope, me from one side and you from the other, we create a TENSION, caused by the two OPPOSITE FORCES.  A physical result of the forces I excercise on one end and you on the other.  So far, I believe, we all agree; each one ENTRENCHED in his position, ready to pull the rope with all our strenght to win the prize and to feel satisfied with ourselves, showing the WINNING TROPHY OF BEING RIGHT.

am bored with fighting

Now let us analyse the same physical event from the perspective of a more artistic and intuitive mind: we get hold of the same rope, we start to pull it, each one on the opposite end, creating again the well known tension. As soon as we start to turn blue because of the EFFORT, one of us is illuminated and think mentally “ What is the SENSE of all this? Where is this taking us? In that precise moment, the same one decides to let the rope go and leave, to focus his valuable time on other goals which can bring him PEACE OR NOURISHMENT FOR THE SOUL.

Once he let go his end of the rope , inevitably he beats his opponent who receives a massive hit in the ass as a simple result of THE PHYSICAL LAWS  Fantastic!  You are totally right…but  everything depends on our PERSPECTIVE and the following popular refrain fits perfectly: “ you are totally right, keep my part of righteousness and enjoy the hit in the ass too…At this stage of my life I AM BORED WITH FIGHTING and all I want is to live in peace.

Bet everything on a better world full of peace

What do you think about this, my dear friend? Do you think it is possible to put into practice the messages of “ imagine by John Lennon” and  from our humble position, let go the rope of FEAR, the stubbornness and bet everything on a better world full of PEACE?

 

If we look OUTSIDE, the landscape is CONVULSED and if we focus on that convulsion we are only adding woods to the fire. Remeber that each of us is a drop of water  in the vastity of the immense ocean; each drop is worth the same: Do you want to contribute  with your INDIVIDUAL PEACE to the COLLECTIVE PEACE?  Be aware that, despite the circumstances we are experiencing, we are THE ARCHITECTS OF OUR OWN LIVES.

See the light, even in the most absolute darkness

It is always possible to see the light, even in the most absolute darkness. Imagine a very long and dark tunnel.. as in everything, there is a BEGINNING AND AND END  as it is in this world of POLARITIES; sooner or later we will see the light.  Why don´t you try to imagine that same tunnel and catch a glimpse of the light NOW before reaching the end of it?

You are the only one who decides which color you are going to use to paint your MENTAL HOME.

Immaculate white

I will share with you the color I have choosen. Here and now I paint my mind with an immaculate white, honouring my name and my INNER STATE. Can you believe that before I used to dislike my name! Now I love it, I love its meaning, I identify myself with that essence of PURITY AND PEACE which I feel every day in me. You have it too, in your inner side:

Are you willing to take the hand of your inner side every day?

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el jardinero fiel

The title may result familiar to you as it has been used before in one of John Le Carre´s books. The focus, of what I want to emphasize in this space, has got nothing to do with the plot of  the book I have just mentioned. This is another clear example of the prism everyone uses to interpret how things are perceived. 

I took this amazing picture last year in Regent´s park and as a matter of fact it has been the spark igniting  the inspiration to write this post.

The faithful gardener

This gardener ,almost having the semblance of a human being, is the criss-cross creation of an unending variety of plants, bushes and flowers. It stands in a hidden corner of this London Park as A CARING SOUL FOR THE VEGETABLE KINGDOM.

I have always felt vey much identified with natural spaces, and free when sorrounded by its beauty, apparently lifeless,but often inviting me through its quietness to take a rest or to slow down.

Movement and calm

I can recall very clearly those bicycles´ rides at the weekends. Every Friday we used to take the car and drive to the house on the beach without caring if it was winter or spring. I felt such a sense of  FREEDOM ; it is inmaginable. A total compenetration with nature. I loved to stop, get off from my bicycle all sweaty and feel that profound calm transmitted by the sorroundings.  It was like an invitation to STOP, after having cycled for quite a while, and be mindfully engaged  with those two emotions MOVEMENT AND CALM.

As the years have passed by it has become more clear, for me at least, that the time spent with MOTHER NATURE, were absolutely MEDITATIVE moments, especially towards my inner side; of course everyone has his own view about this.

I could stay and observe an anthill for hours; the ants´ behaviour, how they interacted with their antennae, their greeting signals and all the messages exchanged every time they meet one another. I used to follow their trail well beyond the sand, up to where it disappeared in direction of the grass.  An absolute perfect fusion between the ANIMAL AND THE VEGETABLE KINGDOM.

Thinking and emotional animals

We are THINKING AND EMOTIONAL ANIMALS, so I openly ask you “ do you think you are taking enough care of YOUR GARDEN? What I mean is “ are you aware that we are all  the LOVING GARDENERS of our inner garden? I need to warn you immediately, this is a lifelong work; you know, WEEDS grow constantly..this is why our mission is to be the FAITHFUL GARDENERS of our conscience; we are the only ones responsible to keep our space beautiful, avoiding that anything that enters there can spoil it.

If you have a space, for as small as this could be, I can assure you that if you bring yourself to the art of CULTIVATING it, the gratification is instant.  The simple act to put your hands in the ground makes you get in touch directly with your essence, it calms you down, it gets you closer to enjoy THE FEELINGS THROUGH THE TOUCH. Touch the ground, cut the grass, water it, plant in it…by doing this WE LEARN TO TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES AND TAKE CARE OF OUR SPACE.

Nothing can harm us unless we allow it

Remember, nothing can harm us unless we allow it. Every situation that affects us, has been delivered by the skilled hands of a messenger who is telling us in a subtle way, to look inside ourselves.  The healthier we manage to keep our space the more POWER we have over our life.  A tree grows strong if it is free from any weeds .  CHOOSE the plants and the trees you like to decorate your home; select how you relate to your surroundings and the people you want to be part of it. In the same way you shower every day and get organised, take the rake daily and remove the little weed from your garden.The weed can appear small, nontheless it will always take some strenght and food away from the tree you love the most in your garden. Be FAITHFUL to yourself, learn to say with firmness “YES I like it and NO I do not like this”, go deaf to other people´s opinions, increase the volume of your INTUITION, your best adviser, and shut up everything else.

Become the best version of youself

Keep your space always spotless, make sure your garden is your pride and the example for all the other gardens.  INSPIRE anyone you can through the way you lead your life. Keep always in mind that living by example is the king of all kings. Keep your mover, your rake and your pruning shears always ready and transform your INNER SPACE in a GARDEN OF HAPPINESS AND LOVE, where only THE EVOLUTION TOWARDS YOUR PURPOSE reigns, with the aim to BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOUSELF.

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Deseo o necesidad

I would like to have your opinion, my dear friend. I can almost feel our INTERACTION from here and I love it! Me, in front of  the keyboard writing and you reading it. Do you think DESIRE AND NECESSITY go hand in hand, separatly, do they include or exclude each other? I have my opinion, which is mentally thinking what could be yours.

I believe the virtue is in the BALANCE, everything depends on the color, on the intention, on the way you look at the circumstances.  Everything is neutral, neither good or  bad in itself…Having said all this Do you desire or need it?

Desire or necessity?

It took me some time to realise that TO DESIRE is ,in the first person, healthy, good and highly reccomandable. We have grown up in the shade of many COLLECTIVE PROGRAMMINGS  like “ a known evil is better that an unknown good” , “the light at the end of the tunnel may be a train” or you cannot have your cake and eat it” and these have affected our SELF ESTEEM so much, that sometimes it has taken our conformism to its extreme. This is why, when we have lived all our life under the wheel, we RESIGNATE, perhaps with sadness, but we do resignate. On the other side we feel VICTIMS OF THE SYSTEM and we ruminate the situation like cows do with their food, ending in a vicious circle of “ this is so unfair, I feel terrible…I do not desrve this” “ I cannot do more than this…this is it” “ look how she behaved with me after all I have done for her..”   The list has no limit, is so long that we can splash and play in our VICTIMISM as much as we feel like…

Trial and error

My choice is to take a new line on EXPERIMENTING, “I go for the lane in the middle” at least it is a new TRIAL AND ERROR approach, otherwise I will be stuck in COMPLAINING AND IN THE LEARNED HELPLESSNESS, a state of helplessness where we prefer to throw ourselves on the floor like a reptile instead of trying to put a foot in front of the other in search of new horizons.. At least this will avoid that madness of carry on behaving in the same way with the hope to obtain different results…Einstein dixit.

DESIRE is associated with EMOTION, MOTIVATION to achieve a GOAL, they are the engine and the vehicle at the same time.  What would be the meaning of life without passions, without desires?

The magig of the fullfilled desire

At this point the second variable joins the game: NECESSITY.  In the exact moment I need something more than what is essential to live a dignified life I start to …. the MAGIG OF THE FULLFILLED DESIRE.  I will try to explain myself clearly: from the precise moment I add EXPECTATIONS to the equation I start to diminish the effectivity of the outcome.  Maybe this graphic example will be useful: as soon as I think about a tasty homemade cake my mouth starts watering. THE DESIRE invades me and all my taste buds start salivating like in Pavlov´s dogs. I run to the kitchen and my hands are already at work on the dough. I keep working on it and feel delight on the result, so much that I am almost going to eat it before it is cooked. I have absolut FAITH it will taste delicious. I am walking with that baking tin full of aromas, which could easily “ resurrect a dead” towards the oven, previously pre heated at 180 grades …this is Gods´whims..!

I go back to the sitting room and keep on writing; I have half an hour in front of me before it is ready..but after ten minutes I get up to check the progress on my masterpiece..WAITING FOR IT makes me feel a bit impatient. THE LACK OF TOLLERANCE TO FRUSTRATION is high; I am definetly not starving but the issue is, I cannot eat it now and my desire to taste it is so strong.

The conclusion : it is a desire and there is nothing wrong with it, but when the variable is “ it has to be now…” then we are skating off the track.

Everything teaches you somenthing

I adore skating, even when I fall down, a reason more to laugh about myself. After the first fall my bottom is a bit painful, so I decide to pay more ATTENTION and in case it happens again I will try to avoid the same area and possibly fall on the other side; a way to compensate the situation.  As I love making parallelism and comparison I would say the same happens in life: everything adds up and everything teaches you somenthing..

It is a fact that when we add CERTANTY to the duo DESIRE-MANIFESTATION the result is an assured victory..Why? Very simple: from the moment I desire somenthing, I feel the emotion and when this happens  I LIVE IN ADVANCE THE EXPERIENCE AS REAL and I accompany it with the certainty that sooner or later in life I AM GOING TO EXPERIENCE IT AT A PHYSICAL LEVEL. 

Everything comes and goes,  including the NECESITY for this to happen. DESIRE anything you want without any necessity but with CERTAINTY and it will appear in front of your eyes. ?

con o sin

Different tastes, colours, as many as you can find in a rainbow…I find myself in one of the supermarket´s aisle,  in front of a battalion of unending combinations and permutations of the same product. There are so many to choose from that it would be better to work out a scheme, use a strategy before extending your arm to reach for a simple puffed rice cake; made as well with corn, wheat, rye, with gluten, without gluten, with chocolate, low in salt, without palm oil, with lactose, without preservatives, vegan, low in calories..for godness sake!´Very well, let us move forward. In the generation I am from, the options you had for an afternoon snack were simply limited to either toasted bread with butter or bread and hot chocolate.  I must confess, that sometimes, I feel almost overwhelmed with such an avalanche of choices. 

With or without?

WITH OR WITHOUT, two prepositions, apparently opposed to each other, one including and the other excluding. What could be marvellous for a person can result horrifying for another. The world, our world is in constant evolution, offering us every day more and more options which contribute  and take us closer to our perfect wellbeing. The choice is always ours and of course we cannot blame the lack of choices.

Duality is part of us, always present, even in the most simple things. A friends´ gathering: the waiter is standing with the block note : “ for me a beer without alcohol, for me one with and on top all the alcohol removed from hers! I do not know what to order, I cannot drink anything with sugar or with gas, I am on a diet and if I drink anything sparkling I will inflate like a baloon; I will have a glass of cava, I love bubbles, give me a full glass please …” The waiter has already won his place in heaven, he took the order and thanks God he was well prepared with his block note because we are nine people,  each one the result of a father and a mother and each one with totally different tastes…That was beyond duality, that was plurality, a marvellous mixture where respect excels; I respect myself and I respect you.

Emotions

How would you feel if  now, you could choose among all the emotions WITH KNOWLEDGE AND WITHOUT SUFFERING? All and every single of our emotions are necessary otherwise they would not be innate in us.  How wonderful is to be able to feel  and identify them first, to then, be able to live them with balance and plenitude!

Balance

Now I leave open the question that leads us to the essence of it. What is balance for you? I invite you to do a short excercise with me..close your eyes and bring to your mind a pleasant situation you have experienced before,..now associate it with the emotion it provokes in you…even though for a few seconds…Can you feel that wellbeing?…so easy is the balance for me.  It is a matter of patience so that you are able to extend the lenght of that wellbeing longer and longer, during your day. It is a matter of practice, of constance; just try and you will see. There will be a moment in which most of your day will be plesant, slowly, slowly you tranform your life in a pleasant game where there will hardly be any undesirable situations, unless you decide to focus on the opposite. Remember WE ARE WHAT WE DO WITH WHAT HAPPENS TO US. The same happens when you practice your physical balance; balancing on one leg, focusing your look on a particular spot, concentrating…WITH PERSEVERANCE AND PATIENCE…WITHOUT RUSHING, WITHOUT EXPECTATIONS..by so doing you will achieve more and more STABILITY  for longer period of time.

Love

From this mindful state rises the possibility, every time more real, to be able to live emotions like: LOVE WITHOUT ATTACHMENT, PRUDENCE WITHOUT FEAR, AND STRENGHT WITHOUT VIOLENCE.

A state of pure LOVE, without any demand, nor to myself neither to the other person…free like the wind and ready to answer with RESPECT AND SWEEETNESS; “ I am sorry I have not fullfilled your EXPECTETIONS,  but it happens I am focusing on fulfilling mine.This answer is delicate like the flight of a butterfly, without dissaranging your hair and without a glimpse of culpability…This is the sky on earth, the paradise!

It is amazing to feel confident and able to transmit, communicate what you really want with delicacy, WITHOUT HOSTILITY, without violence and WITH LOVE!

Prudence

PRUDENCE free from FEAR empowers us so that we reach our highest level and our worthiness. WITH HUMILITY and decision, tell your truth, fully, WITHOUT FEAR. Become aware that your thoughts can be your best friends or your worst enemies. Once a thought, positive or negative, has settled into your mental space,  and at times just for a second, you will realize how your inner voice is shouting out…EMOTION on the way!

The emotional archive

THE EMOTIONAL ARCHIVE gets ready to access the folder number 3, paper 4, second  paragraph associated with that SAD experience you lived when you were 7 years old which is very similar to the one you are living right now at 48 years old…How is this possible? Very simple: our LONG TERM MEMORY is in charge to file all those events associated with emotions relevant to our life, in such a way that, should something similar repeats itself in the future we will be able to recognise it and get ready to take out our handkerchief, cry a river and sink in the depest sea of our SUFFERING.  Maybe this is the right moment to say, wait a second! THANK YOU for reminding me the sadness I felt in that event and I am feeling right now, but I prefer to live it again WITHOUT any suffering, neutralising the  emotion. Yes , I am sad, it is true, I feel sadness, but I will take this event as it is, meaning WITHOUT hurting myself.

I end this post sharing with you a deep EMOTION: just a couple of hours ago I have received such a lovely piece of news that the emotion of HAPPINESS has presented itself covered in tears. A cry of joy, that one when you feel your heart is jumping out of your chest, so gigantic and deep as my eternal  gratefulness to believe in life and in my dreams.

 Welcome to the marvellous world of your EMOTIONS!

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La-estupidez-humana

First of all I am making myself comfortable in front of my laptop as right now I need to calm down, I feel like a pressure cooker, steaming out from my head .. Why?  Because of THE HUMAN STUPIDITY.. This is why I have decided to preach with actions and let my NEURONS cool down a bit. What will follow is the result.

The human stupidity

Once upon a time there was a land, called EMOTIONS-LAND, where all the inhabitants had learnt to say how they felt while speaking. These skills were passed down from generation to generation and this flow allowed EMPATHY, RESPECT AND KNOWLEDGE to grow stronger and stronger.

The result: a community of people who were really COHERENT, HEALTHY AND INTELLIGENT, academically as much as emotionally. I strongly believe the emotional intelligence creates a very  fertile ground for a highly intellectual mind. But we cannot say the opposite.  How many brilliant  academic minds slip right at the entrance of the feelings´temple!  It is much easier to become an achiever in this world through the correct USE OF THE EMOTIONS than without them.

Simplify our life

We could avoid so many stupidities and by doing so SIMPLIFY our life.When less is more; we are in front of the  SUPREME KNOWLEDGE which allows us to live our life with fullfillmen and at the same time with those around us too.

Be able to reach that stage where the only aim is to be happy and not right…be right or be right at all costs,  there we bump again  into the essence of stupidity! It is quite peculiar how our mental structure discriminates and refuses whatever is not in agreement with our beliefs.  Let us think about it for moment;  how much energy do we waste every day being stupid or trying to convince the person in front that he/she is wrong and at the end is exactly the same.

The glass is always half full

The glass is always half full, my dear friends; this is my suggestion, based on my own personal EXPERIENCE of course. Dare to BE without trying to convince anyone and let the other BE what he-she wants; live and state your thruth with a smile, be confident, without feeling any guilt, let your energy flows in line, allowing you to  LIVE IN PLENITUDE! Keep your senses and your soul in balance, opened and cleaned, prepared to receive from the universe everything you always wanted and ready to embrace it.

Simply ovecome your stupidity, do not do anything, stay in your place, listen without prejudices the other person´s truth.  Try honestly to listen patiently to  the other, with a neutral actitude, without looking in your head  to give an answer as soon as the other has finished speaking.  Not easy at all for a BEGINNER, something quite challenging indeed, but fascinating once you have managed the control of  your mind; let us move to the dessert now.

The summary: stupidity would disappear if each one of us would take full responsibility of one´s own THOUGHTS, WORDS AND ACTIONS, in such a way that I can have a different point of view from yours and for this I do not take you to the guillotine, you behave excatly the same and we are all happy

Forgive yourself and forgive

Maybe in this precise moment you are asking yourself : and what happens when my neighbour ´s behaviour affect me or even make pieces of me. ? Very easy, you learnt to put your feet down, doing what it takes but with justice, without acrimony, or better controlling your emotions  without projecting your own programmings into the other person.

It is very peacefull to be a white canvass every single day! A tough job indeed, Did we not come to this world to re write and re master our lesson every day?  I can assure you that as soon as you start, you will realise that it is much easier to CREATE every day from scratch then write every tomorrow from the contamination of the past.   This does not mean we have to delete our  most valuable experiences  or behave like a kamikaze without thinking.  I refer to the ability to FILTER and choose only those fruitful parts of our experience, and as a rule, congratulate yourself for your evolution and eliminate all those unpleasant feelings associated with your life. FORGIVE YOURSELF AND FORGIVE, carry on in your journey with a lovely smile and take out everything you do not need from your rucksack so that your journey will be  much lighter and easier.

Remember: keep your space clean and healthy and YOU WILL BE ALWAYS READY TO RECEIVE…HERE AND NOW IS THE ONLY MOMENT THAT EXISTS.  ARE YOU READY TO LIVE YOUR LIFE´S PURPOSE WITH PASSION?

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How are you?I am very pleased to see you here once again, please take a seat , abstract yourself from whatever is not your-self, for this is the moment to share these lines.

The credits of the film start and finally the title “ Forrest Gump”.  Correct, today we will get into the movie moods… Fiction or reality?  We can identify ourselves more in one film than in another, depending on our mental chip, what we can define in a colloquial way as  life experiences.

Lights, Camera, Action…

Even though it may seems weird I had not fully watched this film until yesterday, the very well known and winner of many Oscars “ Forrest Gump”.

I was touched by its simplicity and yet by its complexity. If I were to describe this filmI would do it with one of my long and most used phrase “everything is possible”.

In  a very natural and amazing way, Forest, the protagonist , discovers the superhuman power of his legs in a moment of “survival and defence” when he is able to run away as never before.

Life is always very wise, apparently pushing us to the limits..!

Turn the circumstances around so that every challenge becomes an opportunity

From his mental disability rises his advantage, a mind free from contaminations, envy and evil bringing him multiple opportunities in moments of great valor.  Learning and discovering become his master, giving him the ability  to turn the circumstances around and transforming them from challenges into opportunities. Everyone around him receives some type of benefits  from his generosity. How wonderful to be yourself without the need to pretend and be able to make things easy even when they seem unreachable, living with the dedication and spontaneity of a child. In this world everything is a duality and our protagonist´s innocence is challenged by the cruelty of some other school kids who turn to be great masters for Forrest.  They start to persecute and make fun of him, causing  him to  start running away, breaking the apparent limits of his own legs.  Forest himself is amazed with his new ability which becomes part of his concept in “run Forest, run”

Empowerd by “his new self “and without even realising it, he is now running all the time. It does not matter if he is in a hurry or not, if he is going to school or home, he runs and runs because he feels free.  Maybe because he feels safe. But one day, suddenly, he  stops. In this precise moment he realises, that in reality, he is running away from himself and decides IT DOES NOT MAKE SENSE TO CARRY ON RUNNING ANYMORE!

Ooh Goosh, how I identify myself with all this! I suppose many of you too.

The language of our emotions

I would invite you to analise a bit more our character´s personality and consider the following reflection: who is happier and more successful, the person with emotional or with academic intelligence? My dear friends, would you not agree with me that the teaching of our emotional language should be applied from our tender age?

Forrest is coming from a family defined as disfunctional ( he lives only with his mum and does not even know who his father is) but he counts with his mum´s limitless emotional support, who teaches and  gives him constant examples through her own actions. This makes it possible for her son to grow up, despite his apparent disability, with an impressive emotional intelligence, displayed and applied with authentic mastery all through the movie. Amazing messages showing how  we can navigate peacefully around the world without perishing in the attept.

It is extremely important to be aware of the rules that allow us to navigate by following our inner voice. If you tell me that for you 2+8 is 12, perfect!  This is your reality and I respect it. Maybe you have just created a new formula and you are not even aware of it!

There are as many realities as people

 How many times have we insisted on some matters just to be right!  At this stage of my life is  “crystal clear” to me there are as many realities as people!  If I could be  in your shoes I would walk exactly the way you do! Authentic empathy. Emotional intellingence is always the best master to offer a balanced equation between you and me. I finished to watch the full movie with a heart full of happiness and totally touched by it. 

My most sincere congratulations to Tom Hanks for his role, for his chamaleonic abilities , to be able to show through Forrest´s eyes, such a beautiful soul, such sensibility of character, supposely having a mental disability but with a spirit full of mindful messages, showing  what is really meaningful in this experimental and terrestrial life.I salute and applade with praise all those “ with mental disabilities” living this terrestrial experience and passionate messengers of love, goodness able to show us how to live without perish in the attempt.

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